The Six Human Needs were originally introduced by Anthony Robbins. Tony had always been fascinated with human motivation and behavior. As a result he studied Neural Linguistic Programming, Cognitive Therapy, Gestalt Therapy and many other therapies of the time.

Every day you make certain decisions and take specific actions that come about as a result of how you think, feel and the habits you tend to indulge in.

Most of the time you probably don’t give these decisions or actions a second thought. You probably don’t even contemplate why you did what you did. And that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with that.

We naturally tend to filter out these details in order to focus on the most important things in our lives. However, there are certain advantages to knowing — to understanding what in particular motivated you to take that action or make that decision.

And this is where the Six Human Needs come into the picture.

The Six Human Needs are not desires or wants. They are psychological “needs” that we constantly work to satisfy on a mostly unconscious level of awareness. These Six Human Needs are the factors that influence your deepest motivations and effectively determine how you go about prioritizing your decisions and actions throughout your life.

In fact, every single day of your life you are unconsciously striving to meet these “needs” with varied success.

When these needs are met at a high level, you experience a great deal of happiness and fulfillment in your life. On the other hand, when these needs are not met at a high level, you will tend to feel unfulfilled and dissatisfied. However, because all this happens on an unconscious level of awareness, you probably don’t even realize why you’re feeling this way.

Your life seems okay on the surface, however something is just not right. Nothing you do seems to make you happy, and life in general just seems as though it’s missing important elements that you can’t seem to identify.


So what are these Six Human Needs?

Well, let’s take a very quick look at them right now before exploring them details later on:

• Certainty: Here you are striving to experience comfort and gain certainty in your life in order to minimize the stress of uncertainty.
• Uncertainty: Here you are striving for a little variety and uncertainty in your life in order to relieve boredom, predictability and stagnation.
• Significance: Here you are striving to gain a sense of significance and importance in the eyes of others. Your objective is to create a sense of identity.
• Connection: Here you are striving to make deep connections with people. You have a need to love and be loved by others. You also have a need to belong.
• Growth: Here you are striving to learn, experience and grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually in a variety of ways throughout your life.
• Contribution: Here you are striving to contribute to something greater than yourself. This is all about adding value to other people’s lives.


Balancing and Prioritizing Your Human Needs

In order to make the Six Human Needs work for you, you must first identify whether or not your current actions, choices and decisions are aligned with how you would like to prioritize your needs.

Ask yourself:

Based on my current life circumstances, how should I prioritize my needs?


Do I value certainty over uncertainty? Why? Why not?


Do I value significance over connection? Why? Why not?


Do I value connection over certainty? Why? Why not?


Do I value certainty over significance? Why? Why not?


What kinds of choices and decisions am I currently making?


How do these choices and decisions reflect how I subconsciously prioritize my needs?


Are my current choices and decisions in conflict with how I would like to prioritize my needs? What specific problems might be evident?


Am I experiencing enough growth in my life? If not, then how could I focus on satisfying this need to a higher degree in the future?


Is there enough room in my life to explore the need for contribution? How?


In the end, the whole purpose of this entire process is to help you transform your behavior in positive ways so that you can find more happiness and fulfillment in your life. And this all begins with an understanding of your Six Human Needs.

There’s literally so much that could be discussed here. In fact an entire book could be written about this subject. This short article certainly doesn’t give the topic of the Six Human Needs justice. However, I hope that it has provided you with some insights that you can work with to help balance and re-prioritize your life in more helpful and positive ways.

The above article is an exerpt from:
by Adam Sicinski

Johnnie Urban SI, MNLP, MHt, MTT

As a passionate Strategic Interventionist Johnnie Urban is trained extensively in the 6 Human Needs and use these as a basis with all her coaching clients. Coupled with being a part of the Tony Robbins environment since 2001 we can actually say that she is somewhat of an expert in showing people how to recognize how these show up in their lives.


Hello HSP friends,

I know I have been inconsistent lately
with my writing to you.

It’s just that I’ve been a little overwhelmed
with everything that I am supposed to be doing
with not only my mission but also my own
health and my family life.

Some things can fall through the cracks when
a lot is going on. I’m sure you can relate to what
I have been experiencing.

Does it give you any comfort that even I,
the master of preventing overwhelm, can still
have a challenge with it?

If you are following me on Facebook,
Pinterest, and Twitter you will have seen that
I am posting something every day.

Social media has become my “go to place”
4-smiley-facesfor me to easily share with my Highly Sensitive friends.

I always share a quick tip about living as an HSP.
Something encouraging and inspiring plus a
smattering of other peoples shares that I think
you would relate to.

Needless to say I am still learning how to balance
all that the world throws at me PLUS all that fills
me up with great joy that I want to continue to experience.
(Does this sound like you too).

The best news is that as I experience this balance
I will share it with you so that we can be on this fun
journey together.

“Vulnerability is something Highly Sensitive
People do not like, AT ALL.
And the FEAR of being vulnerable is even bigger.”

So I am declaring, right now, that you are going
to see me model being vulnerable and how you can
also learn from it. Embracing it and moving through it.

Join me on Facebook at: Living as a Highly Sensitive Person
We will, laugh, cry, learn and support each other.

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-Individual coaching programs

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To schedule a time to learn more about how I can help you,

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Johnnie Urban

The Sensitive Coach

Wonderful Life Learning

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So when I was invited to be interviewed by my mentor, Arvee Robinson, I jumped at the chance.

I am excited to announce that I was recently interviewed on the fourth episode of the “Speak Your Truth” radio show with Christian Speakers In Business, Arvee Robinson.

This is the show where Arvee pulls back the curtain to reveal the truth about business, about love, spirituality, marketing, public speaking and what’s hot. Each week there is a new and exciting Christian guest speaker that will share their insider secrets and this week I had the pleasure to be the guest speaker!

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Feminine Energy vs Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)

The other day I was eating lunch with some friends at an event.
Most of my friends are open to new progressive ideas and are educated in human psychology. Like me they are always curious about life experiences and are what we call life long learners.
As we were joyfully sharing what we were up to lately I opened up with the concept of writing a book to address the challenges highly sensitive people in today’s world.

Being curious they wanted to know more about what was a Highly Sensitive Person. I suspect that they wanted to know if they were Highly Sensitive. In the middle of my explanation of the traits and abilities of what an HSP has I was suddenly stopped, by one of my friends, and asked “Isn’t that just feminine energy?”

This is not the first time I have been asked that. It seems whenever I am talking to someone that is not Highly Sensitive they just don’t get it.

If the term feminine energy is new to you then I have some good news for you. I’m going to share with you, to the best of my ability what it is and how it differs from being an HSP.


Everyone has both a masculine and a feminine side. For the purpose of this chapter I am leaving out the masculine explanation because I will only be comparing feminine energy and begin a Highly Sensitive Person at this time.
Being a HSP is not exclusive to women. There are just as many men that are born with the traits as there are women. But society dictates men are not supposed to possess the traits and women are. Both will suffer and be confused by this stereotyping.

As in most things there are varying degrees of feminine energy depending on the individual person, the culture they are living in, how they where raised as a child and your hormones.
The feminine side is based on a deep level of the value that you place on others. If you have a strong feminine side and place a high value on others, you are often giving and unselfish. You usually know what is good for people, and you tend to operate in ways that helps others, get what they want out of life. People feel comfortable around you because you give of who you are without pushing yourself on others.
Conversely if you have a weak feminine side, you place a low value on others, and you are not a giving person. You are isolated because you don’t want to share yourself or share anything you have. Also, you don’t take responsibility for actions and place blame on others for your problems.
A strong feminine energy often behaves in ways that are considered feminine in nature. You will do things that are giving and unselfish. This includes recognizing people’s basic human rights and allowing them live their life without interfering with those rights. Allowing people their basic rights includes letting them control their own life, letting them choose what they want to believe without being manipulated by you. The feminine side also includes having an enthusiasm and zest for life, and recognizing what things are worth getting enthusiastic about. It also includes being kind, compassionate, patient and responsive to the needs of others, and it includes the ability to limit the amount go energy you put into helping people, to keep from hurting yourself or draining your own energy.

There is a gathering aspect to feminine energy. Going back to the cavemen days where the hunters (men) went out with their physical strength, spears, knives and arrows to hunt for food and protect the family. The women, and weak men and children, would stay close to the cave and gather food from the ground, bushes and trees. They had to remember the details of where to find non-poisonous berries and clean water. They would stay close together to protect each other from a pouncing tiger or lion.
These are the basic needs for survival even to this day. Feminine energy today is still about gathering and staying together for survival and protection. It’s just looks a little bit different. In today’s world we see survival as being accepted into the group. We will gather together for lunch and give kind words and support even if we don’t mean it. Even go the restroom together.
An all important thing that happy and healthy feminine energy gathers and shares are details. Details about a person, a dress, a pair of shoes, who was at the party or a trip and when the time is right she will share it until your ears fall off.

Now let’s go back and do some comparing to the HSP and connect the dots.

1. Emotionally immature
2. Self-centered
3. Unpredictable and unstable emotions
4. Over-dependent
5. Demanding and attention thirsty

1. Have great imagination
2. Have great intellectual abilities
3. Are creative
4. Have a curious mind
5. Are hard workers
6. Are good problem solvers
7. Are extremely conscious and compassionate
8. Are intuitive, caring and spiritual
9. Have a strong sense of aesthetic awareness
10. Respect nature, art and music greatly
11. Have profound and intense sensations
12. Can access important information from the unconscious mind
13. Have a depth of understanding and feelings
14. Are objective and can see the bigger picture

A Highly Sensitive Person has similar traits to feminine energy when it comes to being conscious, caring and compassionate. There is also a correlation to having a strong sense of aesthetic awareness (shoes and outfit matching), and can access important information from the unconscious mind (intuition). Other than that there is not much else in common.

Your comments or questions are always appreciated. :)

Johnnie Urban

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Missing In Action?

Missing in Action?

Why you haven’t seen much of me lately.

If you haven’t noticed that my blog has taken the last few months off that’s ok. We are all busy and have extraordinary lives that seem to dictate each and every minute of our waking lives.

Earlier this year my family was experiencing some life changing milestones. Even though I tried to keep on writing and sharing insights with you, my brain and heart were being held hostage in what we were experiencing.

The details are not important. What IS important is TODAY.

The journey that we all go on that develops us into who we are BEING is whats important.

Who are we BEING TODAY that makes the journey all worth it?

If I had a choice would I choose the difficult and challenging life?

You Betcha!

How much pressure and time does it take to turn an ugly piece of coal into a perfect beautiful diamond?

I’m far from being that perfect diamond even though today I think I do sparkle most of the time

Sitting on our sofa last night I was just sharing with my husband that even though the last 5 years have been challenging (he says sucked big time) I wouldn’t change it for anything.

That unexpected chapter in my life brought me to my knees, literally. And it seemed, at the time, that I would never heal and that we were doomed at having to settle for what our lives had become.

But the most valuable distinction I learned from the experience is something that I NEVER THOUGHT  was even in my awareness.

And now I DEEPLY understand;

Life doesn’t happen to you, It happens for you.


Stay tuned, more to come :)

I would LOVE to hear any comments and words of learnings at

Johnnie Urban
It’s Your Life, let’s Make It Wonderful

Disclaimer, No words were harmed in the writing of this blog, however grammar and punctuation may have taken a hit