What? Is that just crazy, or what?
Why would anyone think that a disaster could help us have better lives?

It’s not crazy, or cynical, or even insensitive.

In fact, I actually identify with the traits and abilities of a highly sensitive person. Are you one too?

Over the years, I have learned, as I teach all my students, to decide when to feel and react deeply.
It’s a great feeling to be able to own your emotions instead of them owning you.

Closing your eyes and imagining a pretty box that I can throw those feelings into, tie a ribbon around it and place it on a shelf for later. I call this the Gift of Time Box.

Recently the planet seems to be having a bit of a tantrum. Devastating natural disasters multiple hurricanes, earthquakes, and dormant volcanoes spitting and spuming. Massively disrupting lives all over the world.

And then there was the horrible mass shooting in Las Vegas.

The first day was a horrible day of shock and worry.
Worry for friends that either lives in Las Vegas or were visiting. Until we heard that they are ok, we prayed for them all.
When my husband got home from work I was curled up watching a romantic comedy on Netflix.
I asked my husband to please not turn on the news. He knows me all too well and happily obliged.

The second day, again I purposefully did not turn on the TV.
Visiting Facebook, briefly to check in with people, was my only contact with the news.
Promising myself that I would not bombard my senses with all the bits and pieces of the tragedy until I could handle it.

Even now, as I write this, I cry tears of sadness for all the people that have been touched by this senseless act.

Though images were limited, my imagination is on fire.
I remind myself that HSP’s love to feel deeply. There is nothing wrong with me.
Deep sorrow and deep joy. We can’t help it, we are just born this way.
It can feel like we are being pushed and pulled all at once.
I don’t want to cry right now. But I have to.

Bad stuff will happen in our lifetime.
We will trust deeply and be hurt deeply.

We will love deeply and lose deeply.We will also experience deep joy and delight in the beauty of a child laughing, flowers blooming, and birds singing in the early morning. Being grounded in nature that surrounds us.

The question is, how will you be able to manage the emotions that go with them?


So by now the Gift of Time box is bulging with emotions, anger, sadness, fear, and hurt. No worries, it can handle all the emotions until my sensitivities are ready to embrace them.

The time will come when the emotions can be gently handled and that is when we can do something about helping those that have been affected by these disasters.

Will today be better? Time will tell. Maybe the Gift of Time box will come off the shelf today, maybe not.



Johnnie Urban


I sometimes question my courage.

The courage that is needed to raise a child
is certainly different from what is needed to
get out of bed in the morning. Some of us
have a hard time even doing that at times.

I remember when my children were approaching
driving age and each one told me that they did
not want to learn to drive. I was perplexed
because the minute I turn 15 ½ I couldn’t
wait to get behind the wheel of a car.

But when I asked them why, this is what they said,

“There are a lot of crazy drivers out there and
I don’t want to be out there with them.”

Mind you, they had no problem sitting in the
passenger seat as I drove them everywhere.

I’m thinking, at this point, it’s because they
felt safe from all the crazy drivers as long as
I was doing the driving.
I’ll take that compliment any day.

Most of us will agree that the courage needed
to speak in front of a group of people compared
to, well… almost anything- is completely unique.

There are lots of different reasons for why we are
scared to death of public speaking and all of them are valid.

Yet, if you think about it, don’t we find the courage
to do what we must do to get what we ultimately want?

Your BIG why just needs to be bigger then your fear.

It also can help if someone else is in the drivers seat
until your ready to fly on your own.

Johnnie Urban

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PS. All three of my children’s fear of crazy drivers disappeared
when they moved out and needed to transport themselves.

Disclaimer: no words were harmed but punctuation and dangling particles may have taken a hit.

Hello HSP friends,

I know I have been inconsistent lately
with my writing to you.

It’s just that I’ve been a little overwhelmed
with everything that I am supposed to be doing
with not only my mission but also my own
health and my family life.

Some things can fall through the cracks when
a lot is going on. I’m sure you can relate to what
I have been experiencing.

Does it give you any comfort that even I,
the master of preventing overwhelm, can still
have a challenge with it?

If you are following me on Facebook,
Pinterest, and Twitter you will have seen that
I am posting something every day.

Social media has become my “go to place”
4-smiley-facesfor me to easily share with my Highly Sensitive friends.

I always share a quick tip about living as an HSP.
Something encouraging and inspiring plus a
smattering of other peoples shares that I think
you would relate to.

Needless to say I am still learning how to balance
all that the world throws at me PLUS all that fills
me up with great joy that I want to continue to experience.
(Does this sound like you too).

The best news is that as I experience this balance
I will share it with you so that we can be on this fun
journey together.

“Vulnerability is something Highly Sensitive
People do not like, AT ALL.
And the FEAR of being vulnerable is even bigger.”

So I am declaring, right now, that you are going
to see me model being vulnerable and how you can
also learn from it. Embracing it and moving through it.

Join me on Facebook at: Living as a Highly Sensitive Person
We will, laugh, cry, learn and support each other.

There are several ways I work with clients:

-Individual coaching programs

-Group coaching programs

-Personalized programs

To schedule a time to learn more about how I can help you,

click here: 60 MIN.Stop The Madness and Thrive Session, my online calendar.

Or send me an email message at info@everythinghsp.com

Or call me at (714-403-9256)


Johnnie Urban

The Sensitive Coach

Wonderful Life Learning

P.S. Do you want to find out what the 7 Needs of a Highly Sensitive Person Are?

Recently I was told that I was a gentle coach. That confused me a bit so I did some research and found this article. Apparently compassion and gentle have similar meanings.

About 10 years ago I hired my first of many coaches. What I discovered with all these coaches was that they felt they needed to inspire me to take action by making me feel shame and guilt. Once they found out what my desires and goals were they berated and hounded me thinking that was going to motivate me into doing the actions they wanted me to do. YUCK!

After several of these disappointments I was telling myself “Maybe I’m not coaching material”. I certainly was not an ideal client for these type of coaches.

“What if these were not the type of coaches for me?”

I was beginning to believe that all coaches were like this and I was determined NOT to be like them.
I always strive to coach people to get the results they want and need. Always considering their unique personality, traits and gifts so that they will be able to make necessary changes yet not have to reinvent the wheel of their core essence.

As a Highly Sensitive Person myself coaching Highly Sensitive people this makes sense.

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Turns out, the old expression, ‘you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar,’ is true.
Recent brain image research found that coaching that encourages students, workers , players or kids to envision a positive future is much more effective than coaching that focuses on a person’s failings and what he or she shouldn’t do.

“We’re trying to activate the parts of the brain that would lead a person to consider possibilities,” said Richard Boyatzis, professor at Case Western Reserve University, where the research took place.  “We believe that would lead to more learning. By considering these possibilities, we facilitate learning.”

The researchers said coaches (or bosses, teachers or parents) should seek to arouse a Positive Emotional Attractor (PEA), which causes positive emotion and arouses neuroendocrine systems, which in turn stimulate better cognitive functioning and increased perceptual accuracy and openness in the person being coached.

Emphasizing weaknesses, flaws and other shortcomings — or even trying to “fix” the problem for the person being coached — has an opposite effect.

“[If you focus on the negative,]you would activate the Negative Emotional Attractor (NEA), which causes people to defend themselves, and as a result they close down,” Boyatzis says. “One of the major reasons people work is for the chance to learn and grow. So at every managerial relationship, and every boss-subordinate relationship, people are more willing to use their talents if they feel they have an opportunity to learn and grow.”

Effective coaching can lead to smoothly functioning organizations , better productivity and potentially more profit. In classrooms, better student performance can occur. Doctors or nurses can connect more with patients. So, coaching correctly would seem to be a natural goal, the researchers said.
For all the energy and money spent on coaching, there is little understanding about what kind of interactions can contribute to or detract from effectiveness, the researchers found. Ways of coaching can and do vary widely, due to a lack of understanding of the psychophysiological mechanisms which react to positive or negative stimulus.

“By spending 30 minutes talking about a person’s desired, personal vision, we could light up (activate) the parts of the brain five to seven days later that are associated with cognitive, perceptual and emotional openness and better functioning,” said Boyatzis, who conducted the research with Anthony Jack, another Case Western Reserve professor.
“Everyone’s got to look at weaknesses and take them on,” Jack says. “But often the focus is so much on the bottom line that we worry ourselves into the ground. It is more important to focus on what gets you going in the morning and gets you wanting to work hard and stay late.”


Johnnie Urban

Strategic Interventionist


Dear Community,

I know how frustrating it can be to have a busy life and not be able to get the results you need to be truly fulfilled.

You may wonder, “Why am I so easily overwhelmed?” 

If you want to have an extraordinary purpose driven life you need to be crystal clear about your direction and  the strategies that will inspire you to soar.

When you shift to a serving experience, everything changes!

“Since completing this book people have been begging me to get this out to as many people as possible as quickly as possible. My deepest desire is to help people get what they want in their life. This book has been a labor of love for those that it will help.”

Early in 2013 I began to study Highly Sensitive People (HSP) theories.

My curiosity was peaked as I noticed how highly sensitive I had become to my surroundings. Loud noises, scratchy fabrics, bright light, large crowds and other peoples energy and emotions. All of this was presenting itself in a huge way on a daily basis as high levels of physical pain, ocular headaches and digestive disorders.

This is where I finally found some real answers to what I was going through and how to actually use these gifts for success instead of allowing them to overwhelm me and stop me from my purpose.

This book was written for you from my knowledge, training and personal real life experiences.”

An Invitation

I invite you to find out what it really takes with this powerful new book written by Highly Sensitive People expert, Johnnie Urban.

Take Advantage of the Special Pricing and Get Your Copy Today!

Handout card for book Stop The Madness“Stop The Madness, How the Highly Sensitive Person Can Thrive in a Chaotic World”

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Downloadable Journal Workbook

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BONUS #2: 60 minute Stop The Madness and Thrive Session.

As a special Gift, only to this community who purchase her book. I am gifting you a complimentary, no strings attached, 60 minute Stop The Madness Coaching session.

(Just leave a review on Amazon, then email johnnie@everythinghsp.com  to schedule your session). You can also schedule here with my online calendar: 60 MIN.Stop The Madness and Thrive Session: Real Time Online Scheduler


Stop The Madness was written for you by a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) who gets you.

In this book you will understand what it is, and what it is not, to be Highly Sensitive.

Are You Ready to Stop The Madness of?

  • Overwhelm & Scatteredness
  • Fear of the Unknown
  • Doubt, Worry
  • Not Feeling Good Enough
  • Feeling Unfulfilled
  • Disconnected to Your Purpose
  • Emotional Mood Swings

Did you know there are ways to shift these highly sensitive ‘challenges’ into strengths?

Be able to live in this chaotic crisis driven world so that you can thrive and be at peace in the chaos of life?

In This Book You Will Find:

*Practical insights and real stories about how high sensitivity affects both work and personal relationships.

*Never before seen, The Six Human Needs and how they effect the Highly Sensitive Person.

*A Christian perspective with helpful insights and exercises.

*Techniques to empower your soul and spiritual life and the importance of Spiritual faith

*Real life solutions and tips.

*How re-framing life experiences changes everything.

*The importance of nutrition and wellness.


What People Are Saying!

lynn & Jeff“Invaluable, life changing!! A must read for those who are, and those who live with a Highly Sensitive Person. Johnnie Marie Urban addresses the situation with insightful perfection!”

 -Lynn Kay, Yorba Linda


Johnnie Urban is an Expert In Getting Fast Results!

Johnnie M. Urban author, speaker and specialist.
Strategic Interventionist. Certified Master Life & Business Success Coach. MNLP, MHt. MTT. Coaching the Highly Sensitive Person how to navigate their world.
Founder and CEO of Wonderful Life Learning Company.
Wife, Mother, Grandma, friend and a Highly Sensitive Person.

Wonderful Life Learning is a Christian based Life Success Coaching & Consulting Company.


A Special Note From Johnnie;

LR half body trees“Because I believe that what happens in one area of your life will cross over to another area I also extend my teachings and mentoring to the your work environment. Including your boss, manager, coworkers and staff.

We are born with certain family DNA traits. And that God had a plan for us even before we were conceived. The order I was born in my family and the region on the planet where I lived as a child growing up and going to school. This is the “culture” I learned from.

Then there is what I choose to do with it. I’ve always been curious as a child and that never went away. OH the stories my parents could tell you.

As an adult I have always been insanely curious about what makes people do what they do. Their behaviors – good and bad- and how other people react to them.


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Make sure you take advantage of her complimentary giftno strings attached 60 minute Stop The Madness Coaching session. 

Enjoy and let me know what you think!

~Johnnie Urban

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This is the second of six consecutive blogs where I am sharing The 6 Human Needs as taught by Tony Robbins (Tonyrobbins.com).

As a graduate of the Robbins/Madanes Strategic Interventionist Coach Training program this has become my favorite core learnings from the program.

Last week I shared with you the first need CERTAINTY. This week I will be sharing with you the paradox UNCERTAINTY.

Challenges of the Highly Sensitive Person HSPARE YOU REALLY CERTAIN?
Can you remember when was the last time you were absolutely certain about every aspect of your life. You knew without a shadow of a doubt that everything was going to be all right.

Your bills were all going to get paid. Your spouse or child loved you no matter what. You were going to have a job tomorrow. Your health was perfect. How about trusting that, while you’re driving down the street or highway, the car on the other side of the white line was going to stay there?

How many of you like surprises? Most of you would say “Yea”.
But you need to think about ALL surprises not just the ones you want. Not all surprises are good ones. Some of us like to be scared a little and seek out scary movies and read scary novels. Some of us don’t even like to watch the evening news right before bed because it gives us nightmares.

New Life and Old Life Words on Red and Blue Road signCONFLICTING NEEDS
The 6 Human Needs are where I start when I begin to work with people who are struggling with their lives. I find that where there is a struggle there is a conflict in two of their top needs. Sorting out what is “out of wack” makes all the difference in how fast a person moves from chaos to thriving and getting the results they want.




All human beings share the same six basic human needs. These needs underlie all the choices we make in our lives.


The second need is for Uncertainty – for variety and challenges that exercise our emotional and physical range. Everyone needs some variety in life.  Our bodies, our minds, our emotional well-being all require uncertainty, exercise, suspense, and surprise.

Just as a sense of security is reassuring, so the excitement that comes from variety is necessary to feel alive. For some, variety may be satisfied by watching the news on television; others may seek extreme high-risk activities such as extreme sports.
Descriptive words for Uncertainty/Variety are: fear, thrills, instability, change, entertainment, suspense, exertion, surprise, conflict, and crisis.

Happy woman with bunch of flowersSENSITIVE PEOPLE
To a Highly Sensitive Person, having too much uncertainty and variety is overwhelming for them. It can be a major form of stress in their lives. Yet I know plenty of HSPs that have high energy jobs, careers, hobbies, and friends, and they do just fine. According to research, there is a subset of HSP. About 30% of all HSPs are to some degree known a High Sensation Seekers, or HSS.

I happen to score high as an HSS. I can get bored easily and want lots of variety. My challenge is to find a sweet spot where I don’t bite off more than I can chew. In other words, I must not overcommit to doing something and then not be able to follow through because I got too overstimulated and exhausted.



  • So now that you know what two of the six needs are can you begin to guess if you have any conflicts?
  • Where are you fearful in your life?
  • Are you trying to get certainty by trying to control too much?
  • Perhaps you are bored because too much uncertainty is scary.


Each pVisionerson is unique and different in where they fall on the scale of balance. Finding that balance for you is what I do.

Coaching people, just like you, the skill of how to create the balance they NEED everyday and for the rest of their lives.

“It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.”

Johnnie Urban
Strategic Interventionist
Coaching Highly Sensitive People How To Thrive In A Chaotic World

On January 14, 2015 I was invited to do a radio interview with renowned Relationship & Life Coach, Author, Speaker, Mari Mitchell Porter, CPC. Please have a listen to this exciting interview.

Love and harmony is what everyone wants in their relationships. However, very often it is not present. Instead you have strive, arguing and stress.Join me and my special guest Johnnie Marie Urban as we talk about why we get into difficult relationships, what we can learn from them and how to create happy, healthy and loving relationships. Find out how it is possible to be in relationships where you can communicate in a way that creates harmony and love at a level that is deep, beautiful and long lasting.

Johnnie Urban
Strategic Interventionist
Coaching Highly Sensitive People How To Thrive In A Chaotic World
Direct – 714-403-9256