What? Is that just crazy, or what?
Why would anyone think that a disaster could help us have better lives?

It’s not crazy, or cynical, or even insensitive.

In fact, I actually identify with the traits and abilities of a highly sensitive person. Are you one too?

Over the years, I have learned, as I teach all my students, to decide when to feel and react deeply.
It’s a great feeling to be able to own your emotions instead of them owning you.

Closing your eyes and imagining a pretty box that I can throw those feelings into, tie a ribbon around it and place it on a shelf for later. I call this the Gift of Time Box.

Recently the planet seems to be having a bit of a tantrum. Devastating natural disasters multiple hurricanes, earthquakes, and dormant volcanoes spitting and spuming. Massively disrupting lives all over the world.

And then there was the horrible mass shooting in Las Vegas.

The first day was a horrible day of shock and worry.
Worry for friends that either lives in Las Vegas or were visiting. Until we heard that they are ok, we prayed for them all.
When my husband got home from work I was curled up watching a romantic comedy on Netflix.
I asked my husband to please not turn on the news. He knows me all too well and happily obliged.

The second day, again I purposefully did not turn on the TV.
Visiting Facebook, briefly to check in with people, was my only contact with the news.
Promising myself that I would not bombard my senses with all the bits and pieces of the tragedy until I could handle it.

Even now, as I write this, I cry tears of sadness for all the people that have been touched by this senseless act.

Though images were limited, my imagination is on fire.
I remind myself that HSP’s love to feel deeply. There is nothing wrong with me.
Deep sorrow and deep joy. We can’t help it, we are just born this way.
It can feel like we are being pushed and pulled all at once.
I don’t want to cry right now. But I have to.

Bad stuff will happen in our lifetime.
We will trust deeply and be hurt deeply.

We will love deeply and lose deeply.We will also experience deep joy and delight in the beauty of a child laughing, flowers blooming, and birds singing in the early morning. Being grounded in nature that surrounds us.

The question is, how will you be able to manage the emotions that go with them?


So by now the Gift of Time box is bulging with emotions, anger, sadness, fear, and hurt. No worries, it can handle all the emotions until my sensitivities are ready to embrace them.

The time will come when the emotions can be gently handled and that is when we can do something about helping those that have been affected by these disasters.

Will today be better? Time will tell. Maybe the Gift of Time box will come off the shelf today, maybe not.



Johnnie Urban


Being your authentic self on stage is a desire, yet an oxymoron

Authentic : true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character; is sincere and authentic with no pretensions. – Merriam Webster

Oxymoron : something (such as a concept) that is made up of contradictory or incongruous elements. – Merriam Webster

In the process of creating my Authentic Public Speaker course, I did a lot of surveys and interviews with entrepreneurs just like you about what they truly desired in a public speaking course.

By far, the most important thing to them was that they wanted to be authentic.

Woman scratching head

I scratched my head at that.
How could I teach entrepreneurs how to convert their speeches into paying clients if they did not want to change anything?

Then it dawned on me – What they thought they wanted was a magic speech structure that would instantly get them clients at the end of their talk.

From my experience, I knew that what they really needed was a system to help them understand what behaviors were showing up in them that would attract or repel their audience.

Want versus need is always an interesting, mind-blowing discovery.

In order to understand why people wanted to be authentic, I had to dig deep inside myself and find out why I would want that, too.

I asked myself:
Do I want to be my authentic self, too?
What part of me would I keep, and what part did I need to change?
What part of me did I need to find and bring to the stage?
What part of me was I hiding that my audience really wanted to experience?

Because if I had stayed my authentic self, I would have had to quit public speaking and my dream career because I was a terrible presenter.

I had a great structure for my speech. After all, I had paid a lot of money to several well-known trainers to teach me a structure.

But what I didn’t get help with was my stress behaviors that were showing up on stage. Those ugly, dark shadows that lurked in silence and reared their ugly heads whenever I was stressed.

Critical cartoon

Fear, anger, resentment, jealousy, significance, uncertainty, shyness – all the ugliness showed up, all at once, in that slice of a moment whenever I tried to deliver a presentation.

All of this caused me, as well as my fellow speakers, to not be able to remember critical parts of our speeches. We would not be in flow and found ourselves stumbling all over our words. This caused us to feel like we were not the authority and expert, had not right to be in front of these people and made us feel like a fraud.

Not one person in my audiences was interested in learning more, let alone buying from me.

Why would I want to continue to show up on stage from that place?
Behaviors are tricky and predictable. Behaviors that we learned as children are still carried into our adulthood long after we “grow up”.

The good news is, all those negative behaviors were learned – and that means I could unlearn them.

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A few years ago…

I was at an event being organized by a dear friend of mine. She was teaching from the stage about her business.
This event was held in a ballroom of a very nice hotel with about 100 people in attendance.
One thing she also does is to invite well-known respected speakers and presenters to share her stage so that they can present to the audience a possible opportunity to work with them.

I always try to go to these types of events to study and learn even more from professional speakers.
There was one particular speaker that I wanted to hear. In the past he had always been dynamic and would present great information. I sat in the front row; I didn’t want to miss a thing.
This time, I was sadly disappointed. His entire 45-minute speech was all about the program he was selling.

Tye Dyed shirtHe showed up wearing an outlandish tie-dyed shirt, with torn designer jeans and a huge decorative necklace. Since he was on a 4-foot riser stage. everyone also noticed his colorful alligator cowboy boots. In another environment his style of dress and appearance would have been appropriate and even admired.

He totally did NOT understand the needs and culture (entrepreneurial business owners) of the audience.
With all of this visual distraction going on, I knew I couldn’t focus on his presentation, and neither could most of the audience.

I sensed that he knew he was not getting in touch with the audience, because after about 10 minutes, he started to act out of significance. You know the type. All they can talk about is themselves and their accomplishments.

After another 15 minutes, his behavior turned to desperation. The audience was not buying his pitch at all.
He became frantic at the end, because when he began asking the audience questions about signing up for his program, all you could hear was crickets.

It got really ugly at this point as he began to point at people in the audience and blatantly tell them they needed to sign up.

With all of this distraction going on, it’s no wonder no one signed up for his program.
It’s too bad; his program was probably very good. I myself am certified in what he was selling, so I knew the value of learning it.

The big problem was that he himself showed up from a place of fear. This stressed him out. His particular behavior that showed up, when he is stressed, is being significant. Then, when that doesn’t work, he gets desperate and frantic and becomes a bully.
Can you see how his childhood patterns showed up on the stage?

It took me over 10 years to get to the point of seeing how my destructive negative human behavior can be onstage.

Why did it take so long? I didn’t know what I didn’t know.
In my ‘off the stage’ real life, I am really magnetic and full of charisma. People tell me that. I make friends easy and have a quirky sense of humor that people enjoy.

But as soon as I go on stage, most of that beautifully authentic behavior disappeared.

Question MarkI began to ask myself different kinds of questions to drill down to the core reasons for this.
The results were so profound that I used those same questions and re-worked them for you.

“What would have to happen for your beautiful authentic behaviors to show up all the time, even when you are stressed?”

‘What do you need to be aware of that causes your stress, that if you eliminated it, that would change everything?”

“What if I got some help from someone who could see who I was at my core?”
“What if that trusted person could see what I was blind to?”
“What if I made some changes (scary) in who I was at my core?”
“What would happen if I showed up as my true authentic “New and Improved” self?”

This was a huge, life-changing, aha moment for me.
Because I had tried to make these changes in my past and thought I had done a pretty good job at it. But, (there’s the but) I struggled with keeping the negative pieces of me off the stage.

I truly wanted to be my authentic self in front of others, yet when I was speaking, people would be repelled by my words and attitude.

What would it be like for you to experience peace in front of your audience?
To be able to deliver your message that would automatically build rapport and have your audience get to know, love and trust you?

Knowing in your heart and soul that you are showing up as your true authentic “New and Improved” self.

How do you do that? You really only have three choices:

1. Reflect on what behaviors are showing up when you are stressed. Journal about them. Meditate. Pray.
Good practices, but could take a long time.
We don’t know what we don’t know.

2. Ask your family, friends, co-workers. Be careful, because these groups of people normally don’t want you to improve, because when you improve, they fear you will either want to change them or leave them.
How do you feel when someone criticizes and places judgments on you? Even when we ask them to do it, we can feel resentment and will reject the well-meaning help.

3. Find a sensitive trained professional that will be able to love you enough to see that you grow. Someone who will be there with you for the long haul and believe in your success more than you do.
Someone who knows how to give proper feedback so that you will be motivated to improve.

By now, you may be seeing that being your authentic self truly is an oxymoron.
When you are stressed, all kinds of negative behaviors will show up.

I’m going to repeat myself here:
What would it be like for you to experience peace in front of your audience?
To be able to deliver your message that would automatically build rapport and have your audience get to know, love and trust you?

Johnnie Speaking To Large Group

Johnnie Speaking

I desperately wanted that and I found a way.
Created a system that I still use personally today every time I get on stage.

I’ve been sharing it with my individual private clients and at local workshops for over 2 years now with amazing results.

Now I want to help even more people. People like you who desire the same thing that I wanted.

As I write this I am in the process of developing my online Authentic Speaker Training program called Speeches that Convert.

Would you like to be part of the launch process?

If you did not have the chance to answer the easy yet comprehensive survey that I created just for you.

Click Here: APS Online Course Creation Survey

As a thank you for helping out you will be one of the first to receive special launch pricing for Speeches that Convert.

Your responses and feedback will help with the development and design of the course so that it is a perfect fit for you and others like you.

Again, Here is the APS Online Course Creation Survey  

Johnnie Urban
Wonderful life Learning Intl.
Authentic Public Speaker

Johnnie Urban

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“English is like, totally fun to learn, you know?”
If you take out the words “like,” “totally” and “you know” from that sentence, you’re left with a perfectly understandable sentence:

English is fun to learn.

So what’s the point of all those extra words, then?
Words like “totally” and phrases like “you know” are called filler words, and they’re used, like, literally all the time.
You’ve probably heard lots of filler words being used in conversations or in movies and TV shows. These might not seem useful, but they are actually a pretty important part of the English language, especially in American English.
Filler words can be an English learner’s best friends, if you use them correctly and not too often.

What Are Filler Words?

Filler words are words (and phrases) that are used to fill silence when you’re speaking. They’re words that don’t add any real value to the sentence. They simply keep you going while you come up with the rest of your sentence.
Their actual name is “discourse markers,” but they’re much more commonly known as “filler words.”
You might already use filler words without realizing it. When you can’t think of the right word to use in a sentence, you might say “umm.”

This gives you a break while you think, without an awkward, silent pause.
Since filler words don’t really add any meaning to the sentence, you don’t need to think about using them. This leaves your brain free to think of other things—like the word you’re trying to remember.

Building Confidence

Most beginning speakers are afraid of pauses. They believe their audience will think they are inarticulate if they pause to think of what to say next, so they use filler words to avoid the silence. However, a pause is actually more impressive than a filler word. Listeners know that the speaker is thinking, trying to find the right word.
They respect this. Sometimes a pause can actually improve a speech, as when an actor uses a dramatic pause to rivet the attention of his audience.
A speaker shouldn’t be afraid to pause occasionally during a speech; it shows self-confidence.

Johnnie Urban, author and speaker trainer says,
“I remind myself that I have the floor and that nobody is going to interrupt me,” she also adds, “I tell myself that it’s okay to be silent. When I’m collecting my thoughts, I believe I appear more cerebral and deep in thought if I remain silent for a second or two. I appear to be the wise professor who is about to say something profound. I find that the audience will sit up and pay more attention. I tell myself that what seems like a long pause to me is probably a short pause to those in the audience.”

Brittany Hoff Gill of the Eagle Toastmasters in Eagle, Idaho, believes the way a speaker views the situation also affects the “ah” quotient. “Filler words generally come in when you don’t view the presentation as a conversation,” she says. “This makes you nervous and tense, and then you have a tendency to use filler words.”

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Use Filler Words in Moderation

Like with anything else, you could use filler words too much. Overusing filler words (using too many, too often) can make you sound unprofessional. Even worse, it can make it difficult to follow your sentences. So do use filler words when you speak, they actually can add some personality to a bland sentence or statement, but don’t use them too much.

This article is a compilation from several different resources.
15+ Quick English Filler Words You’ll Thank Yourself for Learning by YULIYAGEIKHMAN.
Download the complete article: Available as a convenient and portable PDF that you can take anywhere. Click here to get a copy. (Download)

Toastmaster website CUTTING OUT FILLER WORDS

Johnnie Urban Authentic Public Speaking  and Creator of the Speaker Start-up Kit

16 Public Speaking Declarations, Affirmations and Incantations

There are both positive and negative types of affirmations. I’m sure many of us can remember as a child being told by a teacher, parent or coach that we didn’t have the ability to do something, or we were too fat, clumsy, etc. These unresourceful statements can stay with us in the conscious or unconscious mind, and we then reinforce them throughout our lives.

We say incantations to ourselves all the time. Powerful positive ones will always overpower and eliminate negative self-defeating ones.

Declarations are something you say that is a statement that you believe to be true. When you make a declaration about something it’s like you put your stake in the ground and there is no turning back.

Affirmations can be a powerful tool to help you to change your mood, state of mind and manifest the change you desire in your life.

Incantations are what we say over and over again until they become a part of our unconscious mind. When that happens then it is a part of us and our unconscious mind will automatically accept them and do everything in its power to help you achieve them.

If an unresourceful belief is deeply rooted in our unconscious mind then it has the ability to override a positive affirmation even if we aren’t aware of it. This is why for many people affirmations and incantations don’t seem to work, as their afflicted thought patterns are so strong that it knocks out the effect of the positive statement. So how can we add more muscle to an affirmation and incantation so that it has the power to triumph over our negative thinking? Here are some suggestions on how to make them work for you.


Four Steps to Make Affirmations and Incantations More Effective & Powerful


Step 1: Write out an affirmation on the positive aspect of your self-judgment. You may want to use a thesaurus to find more powerful words to beef up your statement. For example instead of saying, “I’m worthy,” you could say, “I’m remarkable and cherished.” After you have written your affirmation, ask a close friend or a coach to read it to see if they have any suggestions to make it stronger.


Step 2: Turn your affirmation into incantations. Speak the affirmation out loud for about five minutes, three times a day — morning, mid day and evening. An ideal time to do this is when you’re putting on your make up or shaving, so that you can look at yourself in the mirror as you repeat the positive statement. Another option that helps to reinforce the new belief and would be easy to do at work is to write out the affirmation several times in a notebook. Notice over time as you write it if your style of writing changes. This could be a clue as to how your mind embraces the new concept.


Step 3: Anchor the affirmation in your body as you are repeating it by doing something powerfully physical. Do the Super Hero power pose (see photo). Jumping jacks, pushups or if you can go for a walk or even a run.

Step 4: Get a friend or coach to repeat your affirmation to you. As they are saying for example, “you are remarkable and cherished” identify this statement as nurturing messages. If you don’t have someone who you feel comfortable asking then use your reflection in the mirror as the person who is reinforcing the healthy message.


My gift to my fellow speakers

Below you will find 16 powerful declarations that you can easily turn into your own affirmations and even incantations. These are the exact ones that I use for myself.


  1. Speaking is fun!
  2. Speaking is about service!
  3. I am a Master Networker!
  4. Speaking is about leading!
  5. I am a Powerful presenter!
  6. People love to give me money!
  7. Speaking is about connection!
  8. I am the #1 Expert in my field!
  9. My intention is to embrace speaking!
  10. I have important Knowledge to share!
  11. I give amazing value whenever I speak!
  12. I am a Confident, Charismatic speaker!
  13. Speak honestly with integrity and compassion!
  14. People love to buy my products and/or services!
  15. I earn a fortune powerfully speaking my passion!
  16. Speaking is about moving people to take an action!


“I give myself the green light to go ahead, and to joyously embrace the new.” —LOUISE HAY

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Comedians are the ultimate public speakers. Here’s what you can learn from them.





Mike Michalowicz
Author, Profit First
MAY 04, 2012

Comedians are the ultimate public speakers. They have to hold an audience’s attention for an hour or more. They don’t get a break during their talks, and they don’t get to lean on the audience for Q&A. They are expected to make the audience laugh constantly. And they don’t even get to use a PowerPoint bullet list of discussion points.
Comedians know that the secret to keeping an audience engaged is following the commandments of powerful public speaking. Here are their secrets.

1. Humbling personal stories. As a general rule, an audience will envy someone “above” them, connect with someone “like” them, and support someone “below” them. Any degree of arrogance will result in a disengaged audience. Comedians often open up their acts by sharing a humbling or even humiliating story. Not only is it funny, but it shows the audience that they are just a regular Joe. And regular Joes get support from the audience.

2. Just say no to PowerPoint. How often do you see a comedian using the PowerPoint crutch? Pretty much never. Unless, of course, they are making fun of PowerPoint. Comedians know that the best pictures are the ones that you draw in people’s minds. They also know that they want the audience looking at them, not trying to read a screen. Comedians use detailed descriptions, storytelling, body movement, voice tonality and props (that microphone stand can serve a million purposes).

3. Gesticulation. They say that the spoken word is only 5 percent of communication (Personally, I don’t know who “they” are, but I think they are right.) The remainder of communication is in our tone, pitch, facial gestures, and body movements. Comedians know that on stage, it is hard for people to see the minor expressions (e.g., subtle facial expressions), so they make big movements. Every body movement and facial expression is exaggerated so even the person with the worst seats in the house can see it clearly.

4. Laugh-cry-laugh. Like waves rolling in from the ocean, comedians know that the most engaged audiences need to have a release (laughter) and a recovery (a moment of calmness) before the next release (laughing again). As a public speaker, you may even want to move your audience through a little more of an emotional roller coaster. The laughing and crying keeps them connected and opens them up for you to deliver your knowledge and lessons.

5. No lectern. How often do you see comedians using a lectern? That’s right—never! A lectern serves no other purpose than to hide a speaker’s fidgety hands from the audience. The lectern is nothing but a big fat crutch. Avoid it like the plague, unless you use it as a prop.

6. No notes. When was the last time you saw a comedian pull out a notecard to see what their next joke was? A great speech is a prepared speech. Comedians practice their routines over and over, and you must do the same. You can use different mnemonic memory techniques to remember even the most complex speeches. Remember, if you take your eyes off of your audience, they will take their eyes off you. And that creates a disastrous speaking situation.


7. The loop-back. Ever notice that most comedians wrap up their routines by referencing some jokes from earlier on in their routine. I call this method “the loop-back.” Often these jokes come across as the funniest, because they reference something familiar (another joke from earlier in the routine). In the closing of your speech, make sure your refer back to the core content they just learned.

Just because comedians are master public speakers doesn’t mean you need to be a comedian to kill on stage. You aren’t even required to tell jokes (but a few thrown in here and there will surely help). Start to observe the techniques comedians use, and employ them in your own presentations. Set your DVR to record some stand-up material on Comedy Central or HBO and study it. If nothing else, you’ll at least have a few laughs during your training.

Who is your favorite comedian and what public-speaking tips can you learn from he or she?

Exactly what does the phrase Highly Sensitive Person mean to you?

In case you had not noticed, over the last couple of weeks I’ve been teaching classes to Highly Sensitive People on how to best communicate with their trait with other people. Especially in a way that supports both parties making it a win-win for everyone.

But what always comes up is the perception people have about the word “sensitive”.

Does it evoke thoughts of someone who seems to be weak, emotionally unstable or overly dramatic? Take a moment to really think about the meaning of the word sensitive.

Does it mean someone that cries easily, complains on a regular basis or gets offended easily?

The simple truth is there is nothing wrong with being sensitive.

There is certainly nothing inherently bad about the word sensitive either.

The dictionary explains it as;

 “Quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals or influences.”


A Highly Sensitive Person is observant and alert, aware of, conscious of, mindful of small changes around them. This means being tuned into the world as well as every one of its sights, sounds and emotions.

Being a Highly Sensitive Person often means having an appreciation of others feelings. It means being empathic. These are generally essentially positive traits.

Bad Rap?

The words Highly Sensitive usually receives a bad rap. This is because the phrase sensitive is associated with negative meanings. Research shows about 15-20% of the population is sensitive. It crosses gender and specie boundaries and is something people and critters are born with. Highly Sensitive People process sensory data much more deeply as opposed to others because of differences in their nervous systems.

Do you think you are a Highly Sensitive Person?

Lets’ talk a little bit about us.

  • We think deeply about things.
  • We hate making the wrong decisions.
  • We like to do things correct the first time. “Do it right, do it once”
  • We analyze subtle information and also have a difficult time making decisions.

We can become easily overwhelmed by all the information and the details of every piece of information and stimulation which is around us.  We may be incessantly bothered if our physical environment feels uncomfortable.

In case you wanted to know more about us.

We are strongly affected and can be  impacted by most anything. Whether it is violence or horror on the news, television, movies or social media.

Yet we are also empathetic towards the feelings others have. We love and deeply appreciate music, art and poetry.

Does this seem like it could be you? Then, I actually have even more to share with you about being a very sensitive person.

  • You are one of many.
  • You are not wrong.
  • You are not weird!
  • You simply might be highly sensitive.
  • It is much like being right-handed or extroverted. It is just something you are born with, and it is in fact not an illness or even a problem.  It does not need to be fixed, and you do not  have to be cured.

Above all, first and foremost, sensitivity  is not a sign of weakness.

It can be life changing  to discover that you are a highly sensitive individual.

It can open your eyes to many things about yourself which you never understood.

It will also help you accept yourself more.

Above all it can help you to surround yourself with the people that really get you.

Johnnie Urban

The Importance of Nutrition and Wellness

If you are a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) then you are also more aware of when your body is not comfortable. Since HSP are more sensitive to  being uncomfortable and feeling physical pain than most people we work at being the most comfortable that we can be in every environment. Therefore, it is important to look at our health and wellness as a way to avoid over-stimulation, exhaustion and physical pain.

*Stick to simple foods that have a healthy balance is essential.
*Get the supplemental nutrients, our food no longer provides what we need.
*Connect to nature.
*Do regular exercise, relaxation, meditation and any other activities that go with your nature to calm yourself down and recharge after the over stimulation.


Being a HSP does not automatically mean you will experience the physical challenges and pain that some of us do. But if you do it’s just a wake up call to pay attention and do something, NOW.

My back finally said enough is enough.

In December 2010, about 6 months after marrying Michael, we went to a local amusement park and rode every ride like little kids. Two days later I was cranky and in pain but didn’t know what was about to happen would change my life forever. The pain got progressively worse until I literally couldn’t  move. I had to be carried to the car and when I got to the Dr.’s I had to be carried in. The X-ray made me cry even more. Apparently the curve in my spine  had gotten progressively worse over the years to the point that it is now moderate scoliosis.

It was no picnic in the park. Because of the compressed disc and pinched nerve I needed to get spinal decompression several times a week for a couple of months. But that was far better than surgery.
Fast forward 2 years later. Even though my back had healed I still had to be very careful to not do too much. I wore a brace to work and needed to rest a lot. I think the whole episode triggered my High Sensitivity over the top.

Things were at a point that I thought I was going crazy. I was beginning to forget the simplest things and was having vertigo episodes so frequently that I couldn’t walk across the room with holding onto furniture.
Low and behold not only was my thyroid out of whack but my adrenal system had also gone into overdrive. Apparently when my back went out my whole system went into shock. My adrenal system went into fight or flight mode and had forgotten how to shut off.

All of this affected my thyroid and digestive system. There were also a whole list of other stuff going on that attributed to my vertigo that I won’t go into here.

Unchecked Emotional Pressure?

It’s now a little bit over four years after my back did a total blow out. And I do wonder, at times, if the Highly Sensitive emotional stress I experience  has anything to do with my scoliosis getting worse.
Was my unchecked emotional pressure causing a physical pressure that in turn caused my spinal structure to curve enough to have a total collapse?
It’s hard to equate that. All I know is that I got to a place in life where I decided that I MUST change and get control of my High Sensitivity  because what I was doing, up until then, was not working.

I know deep in my heart and soul that God has a plan for all of us. His plan for me is to show others who are in pain, emotional and physical, how they cannot just exist but thrive in our chaotic world. I can only  believe that He wanted me to learn first hand so that I could congruently serve others.

Hectic Lifestyle

Our hectic lifestyle can become a health risk especially for a HSP. What may be a normal day for most people will overwhelm most HSP.  In some careers, jobs and even academic communities there is a huge social demand to perform and succeed at the highest level.

Then there is social media, TV, movies, sports activities, and anything else that pushes and pulls at us to do more and more.
I will always be secretly and eternally grateful when my young boys decided that they did not want to play after school sports like their friends.

Life Like A Hermit?

Unless you decide to live the life of a hermit you will experience some stress in your life that could potentially cause health issues.

The food that is available to us to eat is especially troublesome. More and more GMO food is getting into our food supply and causing havoc with our health. My husband and I just saw a documentary on Netflix, “GMO OMG” that questioned that very issue. HSP’s bodies are especially vulnerable to the effects of toxins and pesticides.

Be Your Own Health Advocate

The reason I told you this story was for you to understand how important it is to listen to your body and keep searching for the specific help you need for whatever health issues you may have. Don’t let anyone tell your Highly Sensitive side of you that you’re crazy for what you know is true. We are so fortunate to have an abundance of choices in the medical field today whether it’s natural or not you owe it to your self to have an amazing pain free healthy life.

Its important to stay grounded by:

*Get a lot of sleep (eight hours minimum, sometimes more)
*Exercise daily, preferably outside, to calm your nervous system and clear your mind.
*Eat healthy food.
*During your quiet alone time read books, listen to soothing music, and do journal writing.
*Whenever you need to be alone, find a quiet place where you can be alone.
*Invest time and energy only in friendships that are good for you. People who accept you for who you are and support you in the way that you live.


Stop The Distraction Madness

Now is the time to take stock of your own health and wellness. Most of us HSP will keep ourselves busy, take a some kind of a drug, eat when you’re not hungry or have too many glass’s of wine to distract us from what we are feeling, be it emotional or physical pain.

I urge you to take a moment of really getting real with yourself, right now, and say ENOUGH. “I will no longer tolerate the low standards I have for my health and well being. I am worth it to be the very best version of myself so that I can live a life that is wonderful.”

Get Help – Address your life challenges and heal the emotional stuff that causes you pain. Your body and your life will thank you.

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I’m going to end with saying that today I feel really emotionally and physically healthy  for the first time in over 5 years.
Yes, I will need to work at it daily – But I think I’m worth it

Blessings and Yours Truly,

Johnnie Urban

Strategic Interventionist
Coaching Highly Sensitive People How To Thrive In A Chaotic World