Exactly what does the phrase Highly Sensitive Person mean to you?

In case you had not noticed, over the last couple of weeks I’ve been teaching classes to Highly Sensitive People on how to best communicate with their trait with other people. Especially in a way that supports both parties making it a win-win for everyone.

But what always comes up is the perception people have about the word “sensitive”.

Does it evoke thoughts of someone who seems to be weak, emotionally unstable or overly dramatic? Take a moment to really think about the meaning of the word sensitive.

Does it mean someone that cries easily, complains on a regular basis or gets offended easily?

The simple truth is there is nothing wrong with being sensitive.

There is certainly nothing inherently bad about the word sensitive either.

The dictionary explains it as;

 “Quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals or influences.”

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A Highly Sensitive Person is observant and alert, aware of, conscious of, mindful of small changes around them. This means being tuned into the world as well as every one of its sights, sounds and emotions.

Being a Highly Sensitive Person often means having an appreciation of others feelings. It means being empathic. These are generally essentially positive traits.

Bad Rap?

The words Highly Sensitive usually receives a bad rap. This is because the phrase sensitive is associated with negative meanings. Research shows about 15-20% of the population is sensitive. It crosses gender and specie boundaries and is something people and critters are born with. Highly Sensitive People process sensory data much more deeply as opposed to others because of differences in their nervous systems.

Do you think you are a Highly Sensitive Person?

Lets’ talk a little bit about us.

  • We think deeply about things.
  • We hate making the wrong decisions.
  • We like to do things correct the first time. “Do it right, do it once”
  • We analyze subtle information and also have a difficult time making decisions.

We can become easily overwhelmed by all the information and the details of every piece of information and stimulation which is around us.  We may be incessantly bothered if our physical environment feels uncomfortable.

In case you wanted to know more about us.

We are strongly affected and can be  impacted by most anything. Whether it is violence or horror on the news, television, movies or social media.

Yet we are also empathetic towards the feelings others have. We love and deeply appreciate music, art and poetry.

Does this seem like it could be you? Then, I actually have even more to share with you about being a very sensitive person.

  • You are one of many.
  • You are not wrong.
  • You are not weird!
  • You simply might be highly sensitive.
  • It is much like being right-handed or extroverted. It is just something you are born with, and it is in fact not an illness or even a problem.  It does not need to be fixed, and you do not  have to be cured.

Above all, first and foremost, sensitivity  is not a sign of weakness.

It can be life changing  to discover that you are a highly sensitive individual.

It can open your eyes to many things about yourself which you never understood.

It will also help you accept yourself more.

Above all it can help you to surround yourself with the people that really get you.

Johnnie Urban

Hello HSP friends,

I know I have been inconsistent lately
with my writing to you.

It’s just that I’ve been a little overwhelmed
with everything that I am supposed to be doing
with not only my mission but also my own
health and my family life.

Some things can fall through the cracks when
a lot is going on. I’m sure you can relate to what
I have been experiencing.

Does it give you any comfort that even I,
the master of preventing overwhelm, can still
have a challenge with it?

If you are following me on Facebook,
Pinterest, and Twitter you will have seen that
I am posting something every day.

Social media has become my “go to place”
4-smiley-facesfor me to easily share with my Highly Sensitive friends.

I always share a quick tip about living as an HSP.
Something encouraging and inspiring plus a
smattering of other peoples shares that I think
you would relate to.

Needless to say I am still learning how to balance
all that the world throws at me PLUS all that fills
me up with great joy that I want to continue to experience.
(Does this sound like you too).

The best news is that as I experience this balance
I will share it with you so that we can be on this fun
journey together.

“Vulnerability is something Highly Sensitive
People do not like, AT ALL.
And the FEAR of being vulnerable is even bigger.”

So I am declaring, right now, that you are going
to see me model being vulnerable and how you can
also learn from it. Embracing it and moving through it.

Join me on Facebook at: Living as a Highly Sensitive Person
We will, laugh, cry, learn and support each other.

There are several ways I work with clients:

-Individual coaching programs

-Group coaching programs

-Personalized programs

To schedule a time to learn more about how I can help you,

click here: 60 MIN.Stop The Madness and Thrive Session, my online calendar.

Or send me an email message at info@everythinghsp.com

Or call me at (714-403-9256)

Blessings,

Johnnie Urban

The Sensitive Coach

Wonderful Life Learning

P.S. Do you want to find out what the 7 Needs of a Highly Sensitive Person Are?

Hello Perfect Gift Givers,

This bonus material is a compliment to the audio CD 

“A Perfect Solution to Valentine Gift Madness

An easy guide on How to finally make your Sweetheart happy.”

Link to purchase

  • Want to know how to finally make your Sweetheart happy?
  • Finally understand what a person really wants based on Psychological needs?

Here are some ideas that will jog your creative mind to finding the perfect gift for anyone.

1.  Even if you are not creative you can find something at a craft or hobby store. When you make something unique from your own hands it says I love you like nothing else. Can anyone remember the macaroni necklace your mom kept forever?

2.  Visit a local  “paint your own ceramics” (Color Me Mine) store and create a hand painted bowl or coffee mug.

3.  I got an amazing idea by accident from Fiverr.com- If you’ve never heard of this service go check it out. A couple of weeks ago I needed a professional 30 sec. commercial for a radio spot I was doing. After it was made I got the idea of what if I got a commercial created for my Grandkids for their birthdays? All you have to do is supply the person you select on Fiverr all the information you want about the person and they will actually create the script for you if you need that.

4.  Put together a gift basket. If you don’t want to over-commit to one gift, assemble a collection of little presents. Pick a cute container, like an embellished basket or box, and dress it up with ribbons, tissue paper, cellophane, or whatever else you have on-hand to make it special. Consider filling it with these items:

Their favorite treat, whether it’s candy, cookies, or a particular store-bought food. A pretty beverage. If you’re old enough to drink, consider buying their favorite beer or a nice bottle of wine.

Stocking stuffer type items: Rely on little items you might use for Christmas stocking stuffers, such as new headphones, new supplies for whatever sport they play (like golf balls or tennis balls), or a few items he can use for hobbies (like grilling tools or colored pencils).

5.  Buy books for your bookworm sweetheart. If you’re dating a reader, hook them up with some new material. Do a little detective work about what they’re  currently reading and what they already have, and try to fill in the blanks with a similar book.

Take advantage of product recommendations. For instance, if you know your sweetheart loved a certain book, ask the clerk at your local bookstore for similar titles. Or, type the title into a service like Amazon and see what other readers bought after reading that one.

6.  If you’re not sure what to buy, get a gift card. Books are a pretty personal gift, and it can be tough to figure out what someone would enjoy reading. If you’re stumped, rely on a gift card. Offer to go shopping with them and make a date of it.Buy music-themed gifts if they are an audiophile. If your loved one is really into music, get them a present that’s in line with their interests.

7.  Here are a few more suggestions:

Write a poem or a love letter of appreciation. I know children and teens that saved such letters forever that their parents wrote to them.

Sure, you might tell them you love them, but it’s nice to have a physical object outlining how you feel, that they can revisit and read whenever they want. This is the perfect gift if you’re on a budget, because it’s the thought — and not the cost — that counts. For extra sentiment, write it out in your own handwriting, and pick a nice sheet of paper.

I’ve written this for him yet I know a lot of women that would love these ideas too.

 8.  Cook  for them. Take advantage of that old saying: “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” Whether it’s a simple dessert or a full-fledged meal, presenting your sweetheart with food is a tangible demonstration that you care. Here are some timeless options:

Make them cookies. Don’t know their favorite kind of cookie? Now’s the time to find out! Or, if you want it to be a surprise, go with classic crowd-pleasers like chocolate chip or sugar cookies.

Whip up a decadent chocolate dessert. Try brownies, chocolate-covered strawberries, or an ambitious chocolate soufflé.

Set up a romantic meal. If you want to go all-out on food, make your guy or gal a beautiful Valentine’s Day dinner.

9.  Make a mixtape (or playlist). Putting together a mixtape of songs that are significant to your relationship can be a really meaningful, personalized present, and you don’t have to spend a ton of money to do it. Burn your creation onto a CD for a tangible gift, or send him a digital playlist if you both subscribe to online music services.

Be sure to include “your” song, if you have one. If you don’t, throw a handful of potential candidates into the mix.

Pay attention to subtext. You might really like the sound of a brooding break-up song, but putting it on your playlist might send your sweetheart the wrong message.

Keep it limited. Stick to around 10 songs, give or take a few. That way your loved one can listen to the whole list in one sitting, and remember that they’re meaningful later.

10.   Write your sweetheart a poem. If you enjoy writing and reading poetry, put your talents to use on an individualized poem. Or, write out your feelings in prose. If meter and rhyme aren’t your forte, that’s all right — a prose letter can be just as meaningful!

 

Borrow someone else’s words. If you’re struggling to write how you feel, rely on the experts for help. Find a famous piece of poetry, and copy it out in your own handwriting, or print it out and frame it in a pretty way. Some classics to get you started:

“Somewhere I have never traveled,” e.e. Cummings

Sonnet XVII, Pablo Neruda

“How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count the Ways,” Elizabeth Barret Browning

Shakespeare’s 18th Sonnet

“To a Stranger,” Walt Whitman

“Love’s Philosophy,” Percy Bysshe Shelley

“To Earthward,” Robert Frost

You could also borrow the lyrics of your favorite love song, if you have one. Songs are basically poetry set to music!

11.  Buy him or her a cologne that you like. Cologne is a classic Valentine’s Day present because, in theory, it’s a benefit to both of you — he’ll like smelling awesome, and you’ll like whatever scent you choose for him.

Keep in mind that scents don’t wear the same on everyone. Everyone’s body chemistry is slightly different, so a cologne that smells amazing on one guy might not work for another.

Pay attention to what he already likes. Odds are, your boyfriend wears something that he thinks works for him, so try to stay close to that. If he tends to wear woody, musky colognes, that’s probably a good choice for a gift. On the other hand, if he seems to prefer light, citrusy, clean scents, try to find a gift that’s in the same category.

12.  Pick up some new guitar picks if he’s a guitarist, or drumsticks if he’s a drummer.

Find a good pair of noise-canceling headphones if he listens to a lot of music.

Get him an iTunes gift card or a Spotify subscription.

13.  Support his gaming hobby. If your boyfriend is a big gamer, he’s almost guaranteed to like a gaming-themed gift for Valentine’s Day.

14.  Buy him a new game. See if there are any upcoming releases he’s had his eye on, or ask his buddies what he’s been dying to play. Or, just buy him credits. You can buy the gaming equivalent of a gift card depending on what platform he uses.

15.  Update his controller. Whether he uses a console controller or a mouse, buying him a new piece of hardware could be a great Valentine’s gift.

Remember; 

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Have you ever found yourself so feeling deeply about something you burst into tears of joy? How about exhausted and overwhelmed being in a certain chaotic environment? What if you could learn that this was normal for a Highly Sensitive Person and that your traits are abilities, when nurtured, will expand your life beyond belief. 

Peace…
“It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.”

When I was growing up, I distinctly remember hating it whenever I heard someone else complaining about and judging someone. I always needed to defend the underdog and tell the judgers to just let them be who they are. It quickly became my motto, just let them BE!

Now I realize it was because when I heard or saw people treating others wrong, I felt it deeply within myself and I needed it to stop.

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Roller Coaster Ride

Learning to manage this “feeling deeply” trait of a Highly Sensitive Person has been a roller coaster ride for me. I’ve heard a great deal of advice from a lot of well-meaning people who practically drove me crazy. I always felt like they were telling me there was something wrong with me and THEY had the magic method that would fix it.

Feeling deeply, for a Highly Sensitive Person, is as natural as breathing air.

When feeling deeply is beautiful and expanding you will feel alive and authentic to your core. When it is gut wrenching, torture, and exhausting is when we want the madness to stop. I am here to tell you that you have a choice of doing what works best for you.
Yes, being a  Highly Sensitive Person will be the cause of tears while experiencing a beautiful song that moves you, or a work of art, or a flower in your garden. It will also cause you to stop an injustice, help someone get out of their pain, or build a successful business that employs people and contributes to the community.

A piece of who they are

If someone were to ask a Highly Sensitive Person to stop feeling deeply as a way to protect themselves, then they are also asking them to give up a piece of who they are. Will there be times that you will feel overwhelmed with emotion when it’s not convenient? Absolutely! That is when you will need to use some useful techniques that I have developed and taught many Highly Sensitive People over the years.

Of everything that you will read and learn and in your own personal experiences about Highly Sensitive People there is one thing that’s really important for you to know. We may fit into the description of being a Highly Sensitive Person, but we are all uniquely different. As unique as our fingerprints. Even identical twins have their own unique attributes.

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Back when I was a child, I wished that there was someone I could have spoken to about this stuff. I was so confused, alone, and unsure about what I was experiencing in my life every moment of every day. That is exactly why I have taken my coaching, teaching passion and experiences into helping people like you that are still looking for the answers to your Highly Sensitive challenges.Tapping into my Highly Sensitive traits and experiences as an ability makes me a unique coach for people like you.
I chose as the title of my book, Stop The Madness, How the Highly Sensitive Person Can Thrive In A Chaotic World, because there are so many Highly Sensitive People out there in the world that are suffering from overwhelm, exhaustion, and the crazy-making of other people.

Beautiful Talented People

These are beautifully talented people that are hiding, not using their gifts and abilities because the very thought of possibly being overwhelmed is terrifying and exhausting.

Did you know that Highly Sensitive People are designed to be giving? If we are not giving our love, joy, happiness, and heartfelt gratefulness, then we are only existing, not thriving. And because a Highly Sensitive Person is so attuned to what is working and not working, we will feel guilt and shame if we are not contributing.

This is an example of what Highly Sensitive People will learn about  their  traits and abilities and how they can be a challenge and a blessing.
You will also learn how to transform your emotional and physical pain into a new, wonderful You that contributes to your relationships, community, and even the world.

It’s your life, let’s make it wonderful.

LR half body treesRev. Johnnie Marie Urban is an Author, Speaker, Workshop facilitator.

Founder of Wonderful Life Learning Co. a Christian based Life Success Coaching & Consulting Company specializing in teaching the Highly Sensitive People how to thrive in the chaotic world.

This is where people come to uncover and explore what their HSP talents and abilities are so that you can have a fulfilled life without the worries of exhaustion and overwhelm.

Certified Strategic Interventionist, Master Life & Business Success Coach, MNLP, MHt. MTT. Christian counselor, Wife, Mother, Grandma, friend and a Highly Sensitive Person.

www.EverythingHSP.com

Email: Johnnie@everythinghsp.com

Her book, “Stop The Madness” is on Amazon.com

Stop The Madness Book

Hello,
I realize that you haven’t heard from me in a while and want to let you know that all is good.

I’ve just been super busy in my research and development of programs and workshops designed to help all of you Highly Sensitive People out there.

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One of the trips I took recently, in early October, 2015 was to actually meet and work with Dr. Elaine Aron at an equine (horse) center. Not an easy task for me as I am respectfully afraid of these beautiful creatures.

This three day program was specifically designed for us to learn about ourselves through these highly sensitive animals.

I really wanted to write about the experience as soon as I arrived home but I have found that I am still processing the experience.

Deep processing is what we are best at, isn’t it?

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So until I can sit down and write something coherent about the learnings I received from this experience I want to share with you an article from Dr. Elaine Aron.

I wanted to share this particular article with you because there are so many people out there that seem to be targeting HSP as if we are the “hot topic“ right now.

Trying to get us to sign up with them for a product or service that is supposed to help us and yet they have no clue what we are about. They have’t done the homework to completely know what our needs are. I work hard everyday studying our traits and abilities to not only understand myself better but to support the decision I made to dedicate the rest of my life teaching HSP’s how they too can thrive in the chaotic world.

(As I wrote this I want you to be aware that I just completed the requirements to be certified and added to Elaine Aron’s website as being an expert coach with Highly Sensitive People.)

Blessings and happy reading,

Johnnie Urban
The Sensitive Coach
http://www.EverythingHSP.com

Let the HSP Beware: “What about All those Websites?”

May 2011, Dr. Elaine Aron

From time to time, someone asks me what I think about all the websites and chat rooms, writers and professionals, all focusing on HSPs. I’m usually asked in a tone that implies I must disapprove of some of them. Actually, I do not keep track much–it saves me from worrying about what I can’t change. I remember my agent wanting me to trademark “Highly Sensitive Person” so that I could control its use, but it’s a scientific term, not a product. Nor is it possible to police something like this. It simply must blossom in all of its various ways.
Happily, I know that many people are doing wonderful things. I also know that, of course, a few people use the idea in ways I would not, say things about the trait that lack scientific basis (or that even contradicts the research), and associate it with things I’d rather it not be associated with, but that’s what happens with a useful concept having broad application. True, I particularly worry when people are trying to counsel people without professional training or sell products as if all HSPs need those things. However, I’m pretty fussy.
The alternative would be to pass judgment on people–to “certify” some and reject others. It seems like a terrible role to place myself in. Even if someone is listed on my own website, it does not mean they are officially sanctified by me! They are just there. Alas, my refusal to direct traffic in our HSP world means that some of you will be misled at times, perhaps seriously, or waste your money. On the other hand, I will not be directing you away from people who might be good for you personally. So I have followed a mentor’s advice, “Let the marketplace take care of it.” That means that you will have to be discerning instead of me. If you find you made a mistake in trusting something, please pass that on to others, speaking as objectively and specifically as you can, and preferably without making global judgments of character! Do the same when something does work for you.

Above all, retain a skeptical, “scientific,” wait-and-see attitude, in all things. I find that we HSPs tend to be trusting, or at least very open-minded, especially when someone mentions “HSP.” Given our trait, we ought to be more careful than others in making our decisions, and I think we are, in general. But we are enthusiastic about all things “HSP,” of course. Further, if you are one of those who have been seriously misused in the past, it is possible to reenact that again and again.

So have a dash of skepticism. One very thoughtful sensitive man told me that he equated being highly sensitive with being a good person. Oh dear. It’s never that simple. We all have our histories, resulting in us all having our “shadow side.”

Maybe take the attitude that every product and service has a weakness, because nothing can do everything and most things have unwanted side effects. For example, allopathic medicine is not perfect and neither is any alternative approach. Until we know a thing’s shortcomings as well as its strengths, we really do not know it enough to invest very much in it. With people, until you have a sense of their shadow side, you can be warm, but you do not know them well enough to commit yourself fully. This bit of caution saves your own feelings, and saves you having to hurt their feelings later.

In short, as Confucius would probably say, “Be thoughtfully, respectfully careful in all matters new to you.”

If you didn’t know by now, I am always looking for ways to connect deeper with people and give value.

So when I was invited to be interviewed by my mentor, Arvee Robinson, I jumped at the chance.

I am excited to announce that I was recently interviewed on the fourth episode of the “Speak Your Truth” radio show with Christian Speakers In Business, Arvee Robinson.

This is the show where Arvee pulls back the curtain to reveal the truth about business, about love, spirituality, marketing, public speaking and what’s hot. Each week there is a new and exciting Christian guest speaker that will share their insider secrets and this week I had the pleasure to be the guest speaker!

Christian talk radio at it’s finest is where we get to the nitty gritty to reveal the real truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. The show airs every Thursday at 6:00am PST/9:00am EST but you can listen to the broadcast anytime.

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Nitty Gritty Truth

Speak Your Truth gets to the nitty gritty of what’s really going on. Click the link below to listen to today’s 30-minute show with me, Johnnie Urban who speaks about “The Power of Being a Highly Sensitive Person.”

Show #4: “The Power of Being a Highly Sensitive Person”

Don’t miss 30 minutes of the real deal as I share the REAL scoop behind what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person.

Johnnie Urban 

Strategic Interventionist Coach

Master Life Coach and a Highly Sensitive Person.

Founder of Wonderful Life Learning #wonderfullife

EverythingHSP.com

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Teaching Highly Sensitive people who struggle with overwhelm yet desire peace in the chaotic world. As a result of our time together they experience personal breakthroughs and thrive in their personal and business environment.

P.S. I am never too busy for your referrals.

Recently I was told that I was a gentle coach. That confused me a bit so I did some research and found this article. Apparently compassion and gentle have similar meanings.

About 10 years ago I hired my first of many coaches. What I discovered with all these coaches was that they felt they needed to inspire me to take action by making me feel shame and guilt. Once they found out what my desires and goals were they berated and hounded me thinking that was going to motivate me into doing the actions they wanted me to do. YUCK!

After several of these disappointments I was telling myself “Maybe I’m not coaching material”. I certainly was not an ideal client for these type of coaches.

“What if these were not the type of coaches for me?”

I was beginning to believe that all coaches were like this and I was determined NOT to be like them.
I always strive to coach people to get the results they want and need. Always considering their unique personality, traits and gifts so that they will be able to make necessary changes yet not have to reinvent the wheel of their core essence.

As a Highly Sensitive Person myself coaching Highly Sensitive people this makes sense.

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Turns out, the old expression, ‘you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar,’ is true.
Recent brain image research found that coaching that encourages students, workers , players or kids to envision a positive future is much more effective than coaching that focuses on a person’s failings and what he or she shouldn’t do.

“We’re trying to activate the parts of the brain that would lead a person to consider possibilities,” said Richard Boyatzis, professor at Case Western Reserve University, where the research took place.  “We believe that would lead to more learning. By considering these possibilities, we facilitate learning.”

The researchers said coaches (or bosses, teachers or parents) should seek to arouse a Positive Emotional Attractor (PEA), which causes positive emotion and arouses neuroendocrine systems, which in turn stimulate better cognitive functioning and increased perceptual accuracy and openness in the person being coached.

Emphasizing weaknesses, flaws and other shortcomings — or even trying to “fix” the problem for the person being coached — has an opposite effect.

“[If you focus on the negative,]you would activate the Negative Emotional Attractor (NEA), which causes people to defend themselves, and as a result they close down,” Boyatzis says. “One of the major reasons people work is for the chance to learn and grow. So at every managerial relationship, and every boss-subordinate relationship, people are more willing to use their talents if they feel they have an opportunity to learn and grow.”

Effective coaching can lead to smoothly functioning organizations , better productivity and potentially more profit. In classrooms, better student performance can occur. Doctors or nurses can connect more with patients. So, coaching correctly would seem to be a natural goal, the researchers said.
For all the energy and money spent on coaching, there is little understanding about what kind of interactions can contribute to or detract from effectiveness, the researchers found. Ways of coaching can and do vary widely, due to a lack of understanding of the psychophysiological mechanisms which react to positive or negative stimulus.

“By spending 30 minutes talking about a person’s desired, personal vision, we could light up (activate) the parts of the brain five to seven days later that are associated with cognitive, perceptual and emotional openness and better functioning,” said Boyatzis, who conducted the research with Anthony Jack, another Case Western Reserve professor.
“Everyone’s got to look at weaknesses and take them on,” Jack says. “But often the focus is so much on the bottom line that we worry ourselves into the ground. It is more important to focus on what gets you going in the morning and gets you wanting to work hard and stay late.”

 

Johnnie Urban

Strategic Interventionist

EverythingHSP.com

Hello Again,

I’ve been hard at work creating an audio program that will be a stepping stone for anyone that has the desire to learn more about the Highly Sensitive trait.

The program will be for the person who either knows they are Highly Sensitive, is not sure, and wants more information and also for anyone that has a loved one or friend who is an HSP and wants to better understand them.

These are the notes I created as a result of one topic that might be part of the program.

Comments and Requests Appreciated

Please feel free to leave a comment. Especially if you have any requests of topics you’d like to see in the audio program.

 

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The term Highly Sensitive or HSP was coined by Elaine Aron through her research in the early 1990’s.
Even though that was over 20 years ago I often run into people that have never heard of it and even misunderstand the traits of a highly sensitive person as a person who is overly sensitive.

Though they are often mistaken for one another high sensitivity and hypersensitivity are entirely different.

Biological or Emotional Fragility?

Being highly sensitive is a biological predisposition. that means it is a trait that you are born with. Just like the color of your skin, the type of hair you have or how tall you are.

Hypersensitivity is best described as emotional fragility.
Anyone at any time can have a moment of hypersensitivity! Even a highly sensitive person.

Hypersensitivity can come from a child’s inability to regulate their emotions by not being able to use their most powerful part of their brain, where they process all their feelings. Most healthy children will grow into this as they mature by the time they are 25 years old.
Yet, sometimes we may experience a hypersensitive person beyond the age of 25. Perhaps this is due to a traumatic incident or experience in their life OR it could be that never got the support they needed as a child to be able to self regulate their emotions.

That’s the difference between high sensitivity and hypersensitivity. The former is biologically based and the later is a reflection of one’s emotional skill set.

Out Numbered!

Research shows that an HSP shares the traits with 20% of the population.

That fact alone says we are literally outnumbered.

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A good description is that we are more sensitive to environmental stimuli that others. HSP’s are especially sensitive to subtle stimuli that other people don’t notice. Such as sounds, smells, uncomfortable clothing, certain foods and picking up on other peoples emotional states.

Unique Individuals

What I have found in my years of teaching and coaching is that HSP’s may have similar traits but that are still uniquely different individuals.

Some HSP’s will be totally annoyed by the hum of a fan, whereby I find the rhythm hypnotic and calming.

Like any predisposition, high sensitivity is a mixed bag. I happen to be sensitive to other people’s energetic emotions. It’s what contributes to why I am not only empathetic toward my clients but also I can see their unresourceful behaviors that stop them from having the life they desire.

The downside is that it can be very tiring if I don’t consciously turn it off when I am in a crowd of people.

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It’s true that being a Highly Sensitive Person tends to make a person more perceptive of other peoples moods. That perception can contribute to hurt feelings simply because the Highly Sensitive Person has more emotional information to sort through.

But being a Highly Sensitive Person doesn’t mean a person is emotionally frail.
AND That’s good news for all of us Highly Sensitive People.

 

 

 

“We are what we were born with,
What we learn and
What we choose to do with it.”

Johnnie Urban, Strategic interventionist, life coach and a highly sensitive person.

Founder of Wonderful Life Learning #wonderfullife

www.EverythingHSP.com

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Teaching Highly Sensitive people who struggle with overwhelm yet desire peace in the chaotic world.
As a result of our time together they experience personal breakthroughs and thrive in their personal and business environment.

 

P.S. I am never too busy for your referrals.

Hello Community,

This weeks blog is going to take a slightly different direction from my usual stories.

I just have to share with you a piece of time sensitive information that I just received.

As you might know Elaine Aron, Phd is the foremost authority on the research of the Highly Sensitive Person.

Movie Premier Sold Out

She and her team are about to have the premier of the movie Sensitive, the Untold Story on September 10, 7:30 pm.

As you would guess this movie was created so that the world would be able to understand what being a Highly Sensitive Person is all about.

Good News-Live Streaming

The Premier in San Francisco is sold out, however live streaming of the event will be available for 48 hours.

Hurry NOW the price is only $20 until September 6th, after that it will be $30.

Here is the link for more information: http://sensitivethemovie.com

Exciting News

Family Jumping at the Beach

I am so looking forward to this movie as it is designed to shed some light on the Highly Sensitive Person, their traits and abilities.

Whenever I talk about Highly Sensitive People I almost always get comments of “Be careful about putting that label on people.”, and “The sensitive nature of people is a choice and is just bad behavior.”

One side of me gets irritated that these comments are insensitive and hurtful (my reactive sensitive side) the other side of me (the patient, loving sensitive side) is saying, “Bless your heart, you need some insight on the trait.”

Labeling Is Not Fair

Labeling a person, no matter what it is, is not what this is about. Some HSP will feel “superior” or “special”. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel significant as along as it is not hurtful to ourselves or others.

For me, I feel insightful and curious that all people are unique with their own special gifts, abilities and traits and I feel if we can understand each other a little deeper we would all get along and work together better.

Good news, now we have a movie. Can’t wait to watch and share it.

Blessings,

JohnnieUrban
www.everythinghsp.com.com
It’s Your Life, Let’s Make It Wonderful.

Ps, Again, Here is the link, I promise you will love it. http://sensitivethemovie.com

Dear Community,

I know how frustrating it can be to have a busy life and not be able to get the results you need to be truly fulfilled.

You may wonder, “Why am I so easily overwhelmed?” 

If you want to have an extraordinary purpose driven life you need to be crystal clear about your direction and  the strategies that will inspire you to soar.

When you shift to a serving experience, everything changes!

“Since completing this book people have been begging me to get this out to as many people as possible as quickly as possible. My deepest desire is to help people get what they want in their life. This book has been a labor of love for those that it will help.”

Early in 2013 I began to study Highly Sensitive People (HSP) theories.

My curiosity was peaked as I noticed how highly sensitive I had become to my surroundings. Loud noises, scratchy fabrics, bright light, large crowds and other peoples energy and emotions. All of this was presenting itself in a huge way on a daily basis as high levels of physical pain, ocular headaches and digestive disorders.

This is where I finally found some real answers to what I was going through and how to actually use these gifts for success instead of allowing them to overwhelm me and stop me from my purpose.

This book was written for you from my knowledge, training and personal real life experiences.”

An Invitation

I invite you to find out what it really takes with this powerful new book written by Highly Sensitive People expert, Johnnie Urban.

Take Advantage of the Special Pricing and Get Your Copy Today!

Handout card for book Stop The Madness“Stop The Madness, How the Highly Sensitive Person Can Thrive in a Chaotic World”

Limited Time Special Pricing

Get your copy at an irresistible introductory price of $6.99  for the soft cover and only .99 cents on Kindle , until August 31st 2015.

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BONUS #1:

Downloadable Journal Workbook

I have included a BONUS just for you! A downloadable journal workbook created to compliment and enhance what you learn from the book. It is chock full of Inspiration and beautiful art, plus a few comical illustrations for laughs. To receive your BONUS, just  forward your proof of purchase receipt to info@everythinghsp.com

BONUS #2: 60 minute Stop The Madness and Thrive Session.

As a special Gift, only to this community who purchase her book. I am gifting you a complimentary, no strings attached, 60 minute Stop The Madness Coaching session.

(Just leave a review on Amazon, then email johnnie@everythinghsp.com  to schedule your session). You can also schedule here with my online calendar: 60 MIN.Stop The Madness and Thrive Session: Real Time Online Scheduler

 

Stop The Madness was written for you by a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) who gets you.

In this book you will understand what it is, and what it is not, to be Highly Sensitive.

Are You Ready to Stop The Madness of?

  • Overwhelm & Scatteredness
  • Fear of the Unknown
  • Doubt, Worry
  • Not Feeling Good Enough
  • Feeling Unfulfilled
  • Disconnected to Your Purpose
  • Emotional Mood Swings

Did you know there are ways to shift these highly sensitive ‘challenges’ into strengths?

Be able to live in this chaotic crisis driven world so that you can thrive and be at peace in the chaos of life?

In This Book You Will Find:

*Practical insights and real stories about how high sensitivity affects both work and personal relationships.

*Never before seen, The Six Human Needs and how they effect the Highly Sensitive Person.

*A Christian perspective with helpful insights and exercises.

*Techniques to empower your soul and spiritual life and the importance of Spiritual faith

*Real life solutions and tips.

*How re-framing life experiences changes everything.

*The importance of nutrition and wellness.

 

What People Are Saying!

lynn & Jeff“Invaluable, life changing!! A must read for those who are, and those who live with a Highly Sensitive Person. Johnnie Marie Urban addresses the situation with insightful perfection!”

 -Lynn Kay, Yorba Linda

 

Johnnie Urban is an Expert In Getting Fast Results!

Johnnie M. Urban author, speaker and specialist.
Strategic Interventionist. Certified Master Life & Business Success Coach. MNLP, MHt. MTT. Coaching the Highly Sensitive Person how to navigate their world.
Founder and CEO of Wonderful Life Learning Company.
Wife, Mother, Grandma, friend and a Highly Sensitive Person.

Wonderful Life Learning is a Christian based Life Success Coaching & Consulting Company.

www.EverthingHSP.com.com
info@everythinghsp.com

A Special Note From Johnnie;

LR half body trees“Because I believe that what happens in one area of your life will cross over to another area I also extend my teachings and mentoring to the your work environment. Including your boss, manager, coworkers and staff.

We are born with certain family DNA traits. And that God had a plan for us even before we were conceived. The order I was born in my family and the region on the planet where I lived as a child growing up and going to school. This is the “culture” I learned from.

Then there is what I choose to do with it. I’ve always been curious as a child and that never went away. OH the stories my parents could tell you.

As an adult I have always been insanely curious about what makes people do what they do. Their behaviors – good and bad- and how other people react to them.

 

“Sizzling Sale” starts today!

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There are only a couple of weeks at this special price, $6.99 softcover and .99 cents for Kindle and it’s ending soon,  (August 31, 2015) so secure yours right away.

Make sure you take advantage of her complimentary giftno strings attached 60 minute Stop The Madness Coaching session. 

Enjoy and let me know what you think!

Warmly,
~Johnnie Urban

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