Exactly what does the phrase Highly Sensitive Person mean to you?

In case you had not noticed, over the last couple of weeks I’ve been teaching classes to Highly Sensitive People on how to best communicate with their trait with other people. Especially in a way that supports both parties making it a win-win for everyone.

But what always comes up is the perception people have about the word “sensitive”.

Does it evoke thoughts of someone who seems to be weak, emotionally unstable or overly dramatic? Take a moment to really think about the meaning of the word sensitive.

Does it mean someone that cries easily, complains on a regular basis or gets offended easily?

The simple truth is there is nothing wrong with being sensitive.

There is certainly nothing inherently bad about the word sensitive either.

The dictionary explains it as;

 “Quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals or influences.”

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A Highly Sensitive Person is observant and alert, aware of, conscious of, mindful of small changes around them. This means being tuned into the world as well as every one of its sights, sounds and emotions.

Being a Highly Sensitive Person often means having an appreciation of others feelings. It means being empathic. These are generally essentially positive traits.

Bad Rap?

The words Highly Sensitive usually receives a bad rap. This is because the phrase sensitive is associated with negative meanings. Research shows about 15-20% of the population is sensitive. It crosses gender and specie boundaries and is something people and critters are born with. Highly Sensitive People process sensory data much more deeply as opposed to others because of differences in their nervous systems.

Do you think you are a Highly Sensitive Person?

Lets’ talk a little bit about us.

  • We think deeply about things.
  • We hate making the wrong decisions.
  • We like to do things correct the first time. “Do it right, do it once”
  • We analyze subtle information and also have a difficult time making decisions.

We can become easily overwhelmed by all the information and the details of every piece of information and stimulation which is around us.  We may be incessantly bothered if our physical environment feels uncomfortable.

In case you wanted to know more about us.

We are strongly affected and can be  impacted by most anything. Whether it is violence or horror on the news, television, movies or social media.

Yet we are also empathetic towards the feelings others have. We love and deeply appreciate music, art and poetry.

Does this seem like it could be you? Then, I actually have even more to share with you about being a very sensitive person.

  • You are one of many.
  • You are not wrong.
  • You are not weird!
  • You simply might be highly sensitive.
  • It is much like being right-handed or extroverted. It is just something you are born with, and it is in fact not an illness or even a problem.  It does not need to be fixed, and you do not  have to be cured.

Above all, first and foremost, sensitivity  is not a sign of weakness.

It can be life changing  to discover that you are a highly sensitive individual.

It can open your eyes to many things about yourself which you never understood.

It will also help you accept yourself more.

Above all it can help you to surround yourself with the people that really get you.

Johnnie Urban

Hello HSP friends,

I know I have been inconsistent lately
with my writing to you.

It’s just that I’ve been a little overwhelmed
with everything that I am supposed to be doing
with not only my mission but also my own
health and my family life.

Some things can fall through the cracks when
a lot is going on. I’m sure you can relate to what
I have been experiencing.

Does it give you any comfort that even I,
the master of preventing overwhelm, can still
have a challenge with it?

If you are following me on Facebook,
Pinterest, and Twitter you will have seen that
I am posting something every day.

Social media has become my “go to place”
4-smiley-facesfor me to easily share with my Highly Sensitive friends.

I always share a quick tip about living as an HSP.
Something encouraging and inspiring plus a
smattering of other peoples shares that I think
you would relate to.

Needless to say I am still learning how to balance
all that the world throws at me PLUS all that fills
me up with great joy that I want to continue to experience.
(Does this sound like you too).

The best news is that as I experience this balance
I will share it with you so that we can be on this fun
journey together.

“Vulnerability is something Highly Sensitive
People do not like, AT ALL.
And the FEAR of being vulnerable is even bigger.”

So I am declaring, right now, that you are going
to see me model being vulnerable and how you can
also learn from it. Embracing it and moving through it.

Join me on Facebook at: Living as a Highly Sensitive Person
We will, laugh, cry, learn and support each other.

There are several ways I work with clients:

-Individual coaching programs

-Group coaching programs

-Personalized programs

To schedule a time to learn more about how I can help you,

click here: 60 MIN.Stop The Madness and Thrive Session, my online calendar.

Or send me an email message at info@everythinghsp.com

Or call me at (714-403-9256)

Blessings,

Johnnie Urban

The Sensitive Coach

Wonderful Life Learning

P.S. Do you want to find out what the 7 Needs of a Highly Sensitive Person Are?

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  • Want to know how to finally make your Sweetheart happy?
  • Finally understand what a person really wants based on Psychological needs?

Here are some ideas that will jog your creative mind to finding the perfect gift for anyone.

1.  Even if you are not creative you can find something at a craft or hobby store. When you make something unique from your own hands it says I love you like nothing else. Can anyone remember the macaroni necklace your mom kept forever?

2.  Visit a local  “paint your own ceramics” (Color Me Mine) store and create a hand painted bowl or coffee mug.

3.  I got an amazing idea by accident from Fiverr.com- If you’ve never heard of this service go check it out. A couple of weeks ago I needed a professional 30 sec. commercial for a radio spot I was doing. After it was made I got the idea of what if I got a commercial created for my Grandkids for their birthdays? All you have to do is supply the person you select on Fiverr all the information you want about the person and they will actually create the script for you if you need that.

4.  Put together a gift basket. If you don’t want to over-commit to one gift, assemble a collection of little presents. Pick a cute container, like an embellished basket or box, and dress it up with ribbons, tissue paper, cellophane, or whatever else you have on-hand to make it special. Consider filling it with these items:

Their favorite treat, whether it’s candy, cookies, or a particular store-bought food. A pretty beverage. If you’re old enough to drink, consider buying their favorite beer or a nice bottle of wine.

Stocking stuffer type items: Rely on little items you might use for Christmas stocking stuffers, such as new headphones, new supplies for whatever sport they play (like golf balls or tennis balls), or a few items he can use for hobbies (like grilling tools or colored pencils).

5.  Buy books for your bookworm sweetheart. If you’re dating a reader, hook them up with some new material. Do a little detective work about what they’re  currently reading and what they already have, and try to fill in the blanks with a similar book.

Take advantage of product recommendations. For instance, if you know your sweetheart loved a certain book, ask the clerk at your local bookstore for similar titles. Or, type the title into a service like Amazon and see what other readers bought after reading that one.

6.  If you’re not sure what to buy, get a gift card. Books are a pretty personal gift, and it can be tough to figure out what someone would enjoy reading. If you’re stumped, rely on a gift card. Offer to go shopping with them and make a date of it.Buy music-themed gifts if they are an audiophile. If your loved one is really into music, get them a present that’s in line with their interests.

7.  Here are a few more suggestions:

Write a poem or a love letter of appreciation. I know children and teens that saved such letters forever that their parents wrote to them.

Sure, you might tell them you love them, but it’s nice to have a physical object outlining how you feel, that they can revisit and read whenever they want. This is the perfect gift if you’re on a budget, because it’s the thought — and not the cost — that counts. For extra sentiment, write it out in your own handwriting, and pick a nice sheet of paper.

I’ve written this for him yet I know a lot of women that would love these ideas too.

 8.  Cook  for them. Take advantage of that old saying: “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” Whether it’s a simple dessert or a full-fledged meal, presenting your sweetheart with food is a tangible demonstration that you care. Here are some timeless options:

Make them cookies. Don’t know their favorite kind of cookie? Now’s the time to find out! Or, if you want it to be a surprise, go with classic crowd-pleasers like chocolate chip or sugar cookies.

Whip up a decadent chocolate dessert. Try brownies, chocolate-covered strawberries, or an ambitious chocolate soufflé.

Set up a romantic meal. If you want to go all-out on food, make your guy or gal a beautiful Valentine’s Day dinner.

9.  Make a mixtape (or playlist). Putting together a mixtape of songs that are significant to your relationship can be a really meaningful, personalized present, and you don’t have to spend a ton of money to do it. Burn your creation onto a CD for a tangible gift, or send him a digital playlist if you both subscribe to online music services.

Be sure to include “your” song, if you have one. If you don’t, throw a handful of potential candidates into the mix.

Pay attention to subtext. You might really like the sound of a brooding break-up song, but putting it on your playlist might send your sweetheart the wrong message.

Keep it limited. Stick to around 10 songs, give or take a few. That way your loved one can listen to the whole list in one sitting, and remember that they’re meaningful later.

10.   Write your sweetheart a poem. If you enjoy writing and reading poetry, put your talents to use on an individualized poem. Or, write out your feelings in prose. If meter and rhyme aren’t your forte, that’s all right — a prose letter can be just as meaningful!

 

Borrow someone else’s words. If you’re struggling to write how you feel, rely on the experts for help. Find a famous piece of poetry, and copy it out in your own handwriting, or print it out and frame it in a pretty way. Some classics to get you started:

“Somewhere I have never traveled,” e.e. Cummings

Sonnet XVII, Pablo Neruda

“How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count the Ways,” Elizabeth Barret Browning

Shakespeare’s 18th Sonnet

“To a Stranger,” Walt Whitman

“Love’s Philosophy,” Percy Bysshe Shelley

“To Earthward,” Robert Frost

You could also borrow the lyrics of your favorite love song, if you have one. Songs are basically poetry set to music!

11.  Buy him or her a cologne that you like. Cologne is a classic Valentine’s Day present because, in theory, it’s a benefit to both of you — he’ll like smelling awesome, and you’ll like whatever scent you choose for him.

Keep in mind that scents don’t wear the same on everyone. Everyone’s body chemistry is slightly different, so a cologne that smells amazing on one guy might not work for another.

Pay attention to what he already likes. Odds are, your boyfriend wears something that he thinks works for him, so try to stay close to that. If he tends to wear woody, musky colognes, that’s probably a good choice for a gift. On the other hand, if he seems to prefer light, citrusy, clean scents, try to find a gift that’s in the same category.

12.  Pick up some new guitar picks if he’s a guitarist, or drumsticks if he’s a drummer.

Find a good pair of noise-canceling headphones if he listens to a lot of music.

Get him an iTunes gift card or a Spotify subscription.

13.  Support his gaming hobby. If your boyfriend is a big gamer, he’s almost guaranteed to like a gaming-themed gift for Valentine’s Day.

14.  Buy him a new game. See if there are any upcoming releases he’s had his eye on, or ask his buddies what he’s been dying to play. Or, just buy him credits. You can buy the gaming equivalent of a gift card depending on what platform he uses.

15.  Update his controller. Whether he uses a console controller or a mouse, buying him a new piece of hardware could be a great Valentine’s gift.

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