If you didn’t know by now, I am always looking for ways to connect deeper with people and give value.

So when I was invited to be interviewed by my mentor, Arvee Robinson, I jumped at the chance.

I am excited to announce that I was recently interviewed on the fourth episode of the “Speak Your Truth” radio show with Christian Speakers In Business, Arvee Robinson.

This is the show where Arvee pulls back the curtain to reveal the truth about business, about love, spirituality, marketing, public speaking and what’s hot. Each week there is a new and exciting Christian guest speaker that will share their insider secrets and this week I had the pleasure to be the guest speaker!

Christian talk radio at it’s finest is where we get to the nitty gritty to reveal the real truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. The show airs every Thursday at 6:00am PST/9:00am EST but you can listen to the broadcast anytime.

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Nitty Gritty Truth

Speak Your Truth gets to the nitty gritty of what’s really going on. Click the link below to listen to today’s 30-minute show with me, Johnnie Urban who speaks about “The Power of Being a Highly Sensitive Person.”

Show #4: “The Power of Being a Highly Sensitive Person”

Don’t miss 30 minutes of the real deal as I share the REAL scoop behind what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person.

Johnnie Urban 

Strategic Interventionist Coach

Master Life Coach and a Highly Sensitive Person.

Founder of Wonderful Life Learning #wonderfullife

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Teaching Highly Sensitive people who struggle with overwhelm yet desire peace in the chaotic world. As a result of our time together they experience personal breakthroughs and thrive in their personal and business environment.

P.S. I am never too busy for your referrals.

Recently I was told that I was a gentle coach. That confused me a bit so I did some research and found this article. Apparently compassion and gentle have similar meanings.

About 10 years ago I hired my first of many coaches. What I discovered with all these coaches was that they felt they needed to inspire me to take action by making me feel shame and guilt. Once they found out what my desires and goals were they berated and hounded me thinking that was going to motivate me into doing the actions they wanted me to do. YUCK!

After several of these disappointments I was telling myself “Maybe I’m not coaching material”. I certainly was not an ideal client for these type of coaches.

“What if these were not the type of coaches for me?”

I was beginning to believe that all coaches were like this and I was determined NOT to be like them.
I always strive to coach people to get the results they want and need. Always considering their unique personality, traits and gifts so that they will be able to make necessary changes yet not have to reinvent the wheel of their core essence.

As a Highly Sensitive Person myself coaching Highly Sensitive people this makes sense.

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Turns out, the old expression, ‘you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar,’ is true.
Recent brain image research found that coaching that encourages students, workers , players or kids to envision a positive future is much more effective than coaching that focuses on a person’s failings and what he or she shouldn’t do.

“We’re trying to activate the parts of the brain that would lead a person to consider possibilities,” said Richard Boyatzis, professor at Case Western Reserve University, where the research took place.  “We believe that would lead to more learning. By considering these possibilities, we facilitate learning.”

The researchers said coaches (or bosses, teachers or parents) should seek to arouse a Positive Emotional Attractor (PEA), which causes positive emotion and arouses neuroendocrine systems, which in turn stimulate better cognitive functioning and increased perceptual accuracy and openness in the person being coached.

Emphasizing weaknesses, flaws and other shortcomings — or even trying to “fix” the problem for the person being coached — has an opposite effect.

“[If you focus on the negative,]you would activate the Negative Emotional Attractor (NEA), which causes people to defend themselves, and as a result they close down,” Boyatzis says. “One of the major reasons people work is for the chance to learn and grow. So at every managerial relationship, and every boss-subordinate relationship, people are more willing to use their talents if they feel they have an opportunity to learn and grow.”

Effective coaching can lead to smoothly functioning organizations , better productivity and potentially more profit. In classrooms, better student performance can occur. Doctors or nurses can connect more with patients. So, coaching correctly would seem to be a natural goal, the researchers said.
For all the energy and money spent on coaching, there is little understanding about what kind of interactions can contribute to or detract from effectiveness, the researchers found. Ways of coaching can and do vary widely, due to a lack of understanding of the psychophysiological mechanisms which react to positive or negative stimulus.

“By spending 30 minutes talking about a person’s desired, personal vision, we could light up (activate) the parts of the brain five to seven days later that are associated with cognitive, perceptual and emotional openness and better functioning,” said Boyatzis, who conducted the research with Anthony Jack, another Case Western Reserve professor.
“Everyone’s got to look at weaknesses and take them on,” Jack says. “But often the focus is so much on the bottom line that we worry ourselves into the ground. It is more important to focus on what gets you going in the morning and gets you wanting to work hard and stay late.”

 

Johnnie Urban

Strategic Interventionist

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