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All the experts agree that dogs will take on the personality of their masters. Their behaviors, mannerisms and personality quirks all come from being closely connected and attached to the one person that means everything to them.

Seven years ago I decided to get another dog and a friend of mine’s mama dog had just had a litter of baby Shih tzu. I had always wanted one of these beautiful and cute dogs so I jumped on the invitation to take a look and pick one out.

I have a tried and true system for picking out my pets. I let them pick me.
My system for choosing works like this, I sit on the floor and the puppy that crawls into my lap and hangs out with me is the right one. Simple,yes?
This time that did not work. In this case all 12 puppies crawled all over me as if I was their new toy. It took me over an hour of playing with them before I chose my Princess Shadow.

Surprise!

I knew that my new puppy was going to be happy and loving, just look at her new “Mom”. What I didn’t know was she was going to be Highly Sensitive like her new “Mom”.

The reason I didn’t even consider this was because I didn’t know, at the time, that I was a Highly Sensitive Person, HSP. Seven years ago I didn’t even know that the term existed. Studies in the High Sensitivity in people have been going on since the early 1990’s. How is it that this escaped me? I knew from childhood that I had always been artistic, deeply feeling and empathic. What I didn’t know was that being super sensitive to loud sounds, bright lights, high and low temperatures and medications was also a trait.

Do any of these cause you to jump, cover your ears and /or want to hide somewhere?
Floor squeaks
Noisy car outside
Someone knocking on the door
Fire, Police or car alarm
Point scoring yell
Windy days
Rainy days
Earthquake

Even after it’s all over do you still feel:
Skittish
Worry
Disconnected
Uncontrollable shaking
Overwhelmed

This is what Princess Shadow experiences almost on a daily basis.
We have tried holding her, loving her and distracting her. I even considered asking the vet for something to calm her down. What we found that works is to let her decide what she wants to do. That means she is usually under the sofa, peeking her little nose out, watching the world from her safe place. Giving her the time she needs to feel safe again is all she needs.
It amazes me how our animals have the natural ability to cope with stress. If we humans would just back off and let them do it.

A Solution?

Most of us do not have the luxury of being able to hide under a sofa until we feel safe. Most of us are active people that want to have an amazing life of energy and purpose. We have jobs, business’s, activities, families and friends that require us to be fully present. And I know that some of you are barely hanging on to your day to day existence of all that bombards your senses without any natural ability to be able to cope.

Yes, we could just pop a pill, but did you read the part above where I shared that I am super sensitive to drugs and medications? Most HSP are sensitive and just don’t respond well to these. My DR. has even warned me that these are allergic reactions.
I’d like to think that we are just wired differently and need to know how to have the “NATURAL ABILITY” of protecting ourselves from the onslaught of the chaotic world.

I know, because not only have I learned this myself, I have helped hundreds of Highly Sensitive People discover what it is like to have a fulfilled life using their gifts and thriving in the chaotic world.

I want you to know that there is absolute hope for you and anyone else that you might know that is struggling with their High Sensitivity traits and abilities.

How are you supposed to do ANYTHING…

…when the chaotic world OVERWHELMS your senses?

…when you DOUBT the gifts and abilities you were given?

…when you are confused about HOW to make everyday life happen?

…when you NEVER feel satisfaction that you are doing enough to actually be taken seriously?

…when you feel frustrated or worried that you’ll FAIL or make a mistake?

…when you crave fulfillment and it is always ELUSIVE?

Believe me, I’ve had my FULL share of each and every one of the things on that list.
And I want you to know that there is a way to turn it all around so that you will have a natural ability to thrive in the chaos of life.

Choose a day and time that works best for you at => Click here to sign up for your 60 min. STOP THE MADNESS Complimentary Session.

I  look forward to hearing from you,

Johnnie Urban

Strategic Interventionist

Coaching Highly Sensitive People How To Thrive In A Chaotic World

www.EverythingHSP.com

Direct – 714-403-9256

Who is driving the Bus?

I was coaching a client the other day about how frustrated she was about what a difficult week she was having. Her day would start out good but then, no matter what she did, within hours she was a mess. She would get stuck in traffic, be late for work and appointments, and forget her lunch at home; her co-workers were mean, and her son was constantly texting with a problem. By two p.m., she was overwhelmed, exhausted, and ready to call it quits for the third day in a row.

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Blessings

At this point I was saying, “thank God.” If she had not had her terrible three days, then she wouldn’t be ready to learn from it all. We got together just in time to stop the madness of her spiraling up and down.

Through our conversation, I was able to quickly gather from her enough information to determine that she was choosing helplessness to drive her bus.

The bus is a metaphor that I use for our life and how we operate in our waking hours, minutes, and even seconds. Yes, seconds, because you and I both know that decisions and change can be made in a heartbeat.

This single mom is smart, energetic, and strong. Sometimes those are great attributes and sometimes they are heavy weights to bear.

Shadows of Expectations

When an Highly Sensitive Person is not allowing themselves/herself to be vulnerable and ask for help, then all those people around her have expectations about her. What can you expect, we trained them well, didn’t we? Yet, when HSPs are tired from not enough sleep or proper nutrition or time to themselves, then you can only guess what could happen.

The shadow of “not allowing others to see you weak” takes over and is allowed to drive the bus of your life.

We all have a bus that holds all the parts of us, and the bus has to have a driver. From the moment we wake up in the morning to bedtime, the bus is humming along through our day taking us wherever we need to go.

My client was starting her day off with the “responsible” driver that quickly changed to “frustrated” driver when she arrived late for work. As an HSP, she did not want to feel shame for being late so she let the helpless injured “please don’t hurt me” person drive the bus. When her coworkers and boss didn’t feel sorry for her, she labeled them as being mean.

What came next was her son constantly interrupting her “wounded” driver with requests to rescue him from his problems. She is torn between being a strong Mom to being a wounded HSP. A recipe for overwhelm and exhaustion.

Perfect day for a new beginning

Fortunately, we get to choose who is driving the bus at any given time. Sometimes it’s not going to be easy but my hope is that with the information that I have provided in this book, you will begin to know that there is hope for you and anyone else that you know who is Highly Sensitive.

Johnnie Urban
Strategic Interventionist
Coaching Highly Sensitive People Hoe To Thrive In A Chaotic World
www.EverythingHSP.com
714-403-9256