This is the second of six consecutive blogs where I am sharing The 6 Human Needs as taught by Tony Robbins (Tonyrobbins.com).
As a graduate of the Robbins/Madanes Strategic Interventionist Coach Training program this has become my favorite core learnings from the program.
Last week I shared with you the first need CERTAINTY. This week I will be sharing with you the paradox UNCERTAINTY.
ARE YOU REALLY CERTAIN?
Can you remember when was the last time you were absolutely certain about every aspect of your life. You knew without a shadow of a doubt that everything was going to be all right.
HOW ABOUT TRUSTING THAT…
Your bills were all going to get paid. Your spouse or child loved you no matter what. You were going to have a job tomorrow. Your health was perfect. How about trusting that, while you’re driving down the street or highway, the car on the other side of the white line was going to stay there?
How many of you like surprises? Most of you would say “Yea”.
But you need to think about ALL surprises not just the ones you want. Not all surprises are good ones. Some of us like to be scared a little and seek out scary movies and read scary novels. Some of us don’t even like to watch the evening news right before bed because it gives us nightmares.
The 6 Human Needs are where I start when I begin to work with people who are struggling with their lives. I find that where there is a struggle there is a conflict in two of their top needs. Sorting out what is “out of wack” makes all the difference in how fast a person moves from chaos to thriving and getting the results they want.
All human beings share the same six basic human needs. These needs underlie all the choices we make in our lives.
UNCERTAINTY and VARIETY
The second need is for Uncertainty – for variety and challenges that exercise our emotional and physical range. Everyone needs some variety in life. Our bodies, our minds, our emotional well-being all require uncertainty, exercise, suspense, and surprise.
Just as a sense of security is reassuring, so the excitement that comes from variety is necessary to feel alive. For some, variety may be satisfied by watching the news on television; others may seek extreme high-risk activities such as extreme sports.
Descriptive words for Uncertainty/Variety are: fear, thrills, instability, change, entertainment, suspense, exertion, surprise, conflict, and crisis.
To a Highly Sensitive Person, having too much uncertainty and variety is overwhelming for them. It can be a major form of stress in their lives. Yet I know plenty of HSPs that have high energy jobs, careers, hobbies, and friends, and they do just fine. According to research, there is a subset of HSP. About 30% of all HSPs are to some degree known a High Sensation Seekers, or HSS.
I happen to score high as an HSS. I can get bored easily and want lots of variety. My challenge is to find a sweet spot where I don’t bite off more than I can chew. In other words, I must not overcommit to doing something and then not be able to follow through because I got too overstimulated and exhausted.
SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT
- So now that you know what two of the six needs are can you begin to guess if you have any conflicts?
- Where are you fearful in your life?
- Are you trying to get certainty by trying to control too much?
- Perhaps you are bored because too much uncertainty is scary.
Each person is unique and different in where they fall on the scale of balance. Finding that balance for you is what I do.
Coaching people, just like you, the skill of how to create the balance they NEED everyday and for the rest of their lives.
“It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.”
Coaching Highly Sensitive People How To Thrive In A Chaotic World